Endorsements Wi in Wiin g gss o is n nsic sic bo book ok,, Jcki Jcki Kndl Kn dlll s ssio sionl nly y dlivs wi wi nd wisdo wok o l ns us i incss inc ss ino in o s s o coi c oi dd inc, in c, no n o cou c ou js j s. . No No i iy y ls , jus biblicl u ssising ddicd ilis oug discning convsions convsions nd li skills wic old onil o ic gnions. Micl Wlnd Mo o iv, cildn’s uo, nd wi o Nw Yok Ynk Wold Sis MVP, Jon Wlnd A dy souc o ll os s y c i dugs on o bco gils g ils God’s God’s own . J Jcki cki Kndll ssionly quis quis os o g o s o i gils by sing ky incils wic will guid i dugs o k good coics nd wi o God’s bs. DD Kndll Elny Eln y ssisn incil nd co-uo o Lady Lady in Waiting Waiting for for Little Girls Girls Jcki Kndl Kndlll no only c cs s is li ss ssg g o ow o gu gud d you dug dug o Bozo nd gu guid id o Bo Boz—s z—s lso livs nd bs i wi ll o inos bing nd incious ngy. Jcki’s
ss ion, wisdo ssion, wisdo, , nd undsn undsnding ding,, cob cobind ind wi lov o young won nd dsi o s wlking in u o God’s Wod, ols o ls is is ssg ssg in nws n ws book b ook.. Tis is us-d o vy o wo dsis godlinss godl inss o dug! dug! Vicki Ros Auo, sk, nd Jcki’s y n o oun ys; wi o Bill Ros, Liid Pn o Nw Nw Yok Yok Ynks; Ynks; o nd o-in-lw o-in-lw o wo vy cious won wo wid W c d o n wo yns o uu Ldy In Wiing! W iing! As Ci Cisin sin is I gully o c y singl nd divocd ldis o so looking o M. Rig bu o us “wiing oo” i o ocus on i own wlk wi Lod. Wn won lns o lov w Lod lovs, ow could s l bu b dwn o Boz wo in ny wys xlis Cis isl? And wn s lns o lov w Lod lovs, Boz couldn’ couldn’ l bu b cd o — won wos ys ys xd on lsing Lod. Only n cn w s u “lov soy o Lod.” Ts incils Jcki so vlously iculs in book Raising a Young Young Lady in Waiting aiting.. Jcki’ cki’ss billin knowldg nd lov o God’s Wod, long wi lov nd dvoion o young won s svs, sins oug c g. Pn, gndn, cild-wok—ll will b blssd wi wods in is book. Ky Min Auo o God and Psychobabble, licnsd clinicl socil wok T is sily no g invsn you cn downlod ino you dug’ss li n incils in is book! dug’ b ook! H Hving ving cocd nd counsld kids o ns o wnis o qu o cnuy cnuy,, I ssu you nco olds in s cs. cs. Bsids , , I living oo, v v-ing civd on o Jcki’s Jcki’s oiginl nusc nuscis is in 1988. No Boz s d o y n in. H s bn wll wo wi, nks o Jcki’s
cings! As gs gs un you will nd i-sd skill s you nd o dsign Pincss o King Jsus— u Ldy in Wiing. s A. Gn, “Coc g” Fo Diision I bskbll ly nd coc, ig scool coc, nd counslo I so xcid o os vyw o d is book nd bgin cing i gils young g ilss ssg Jcki cs in Raising a Lady in Waiting Waiting ! Hving don Jcki’s oiginl Lady in Waiting sudy l in li, I cn only wis I d lnd s incils young g nd voidd uc c. I v ld Lady in Waiting Bibl sudy ll ov couny—wi ig scool gils ll wy o dul won—nd v bn blssd o winss ui in so ny o i livs s y wid o i “Boz,” nd now ising cildn c ildn o know nd lov Lod. Ky Edwds RN vling Nus in NICU Raising a Lady in Waiting is us-d o any o—bu n gin,
I would d on book i Jcki wo i! H syl o d-iing cicliy ixd wi insigul biblicl u lwys cllngs . Jck Jck-i s kn decades o Bibl sudy, ixd i wi i-sd us s lid ou in Lady in Waiting, Waiting, nd coild ino n ssnil nul o vy o. Tis book will nv k i o y booksl; i will sy oinnly osiiond on y bdsid bl s consn ind nd nc oin in ising y dug o b Ldy in Wiing! T bs : I know s I guid g uid y dug oug incils in is book, I’ll I ’ll b lning lning nd gowing gowing ysl ysl ! Si Con Founding blogg SiCon.co, Nionlly N ionlly syndicd synd icd dio sonliy, V’s Frug Frugal al Mom, uo nd connc sk
As o o wo young dugs, nd collg sobll coc, I nkul Jcki Kndll s u o n w Lod s lid on o ovid souc o l us ncoug ou dugs o sk God’s God’s bs o i livs. Toug gs gs o o is book, book , won will ln cicl wys on ow o ow i dugs o boldly usu n wo will wi lov nd sc, nd will uly b i Boz. I id y Boz svn ys go, n o God wo onos nd ovids n zing xl o ow usbnd sould is wi. I v sn ow incils o Raising Raising a Lady in Waiting gu guid id nd insi insi young won o wi o God’ God’ss bs. Tis book is cin o coninu o osiivly ic livs o uu uu gnions! Kiy Blos, Hd sobll coc o Pl Bc Alnic Alnic Univsiy Univsiy;; dug o Hll o F bsbll ly ly,, Gy C
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Dedication o y ds ind, DD Kndll, wo s n incobl ssion o incils o Lady Lady in Waiting Waiting..
Acknowledgments Fis nd oos I wn o giv ll l l is o y Lod L od nd Svio, Svio, Jsus Cis, wo bid is ssg in o collg sn nd llowd i o gow ino lilong inisy o wning os o no sl o Bozo, bu wi o Boz. Ru A. Olsn, y invlubl wiing no—s s ld u oionl “o os” cing on s I suggld o counic y ssion ss ion in in. In c, Ru s b bn n y c cld ld oug oug svn books. Only God knows incobl conibuion conibuion o y “ bing in in.” Scil nks o Dsiny Ig s ciond Lady in Waiting Waiting ssg o ign ys, king i ll ov wold. My d ind nd no By Glbi wo s yd dily o is book ojc. Ls, bu no ls, y usbnd, Kn, wo s bn y Boz o iy-ig ys nd coninus o b “ n wo wiing o.”
Contents Pc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Inoducion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Chapter 1 Rising Young Ldy o Rcklss Abndon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Chapter 2 Rising Young Ldy o Dilignc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 45 Chapter 3 Rising Young Ldy o Fi . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59 Chapter 4 Rising Young Ldy o Viu . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 Chapter 5 Rising Young Ldy o Dvoion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93 Chapter 6 Rising Young Ldy o Puiy. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109 Chapter 7 Rising Young Ldy o Scuiy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 127
Chapter 8 Rising Young Ldy o Connn . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 149 Chapter 9 Rising Young Ldy o Convicion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 171 Chapter 10 Rising Young Ldy o Pinc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 191 Chapter 11 P.S.: Finl Wods o Mo . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 215 Endnos . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 231
Preface A FF - E E Wn y Boz ws lnning o oos o , wnd wnd o do soing uniqu nd obl. H u lo o oug nd o ino king ou nggn on o os sud is o ou livs og! o is dy wn I b ll scil dils ndd o s wll s wys Lod blssd buiul nig, I ovco wi giud—nd no sll dg o w (bu I will g o l). In is g o liy V sows bou ov--o nggns nd wddings, wn ig scools n licos o sg big “sk” o o, nd s ds g kn o v-s su suns, ns, y soy y no s so xodiny. Bu l you ind wnd bck o id-1970s wn li ws gnuinly g nuinly o sil nd w Aicn ns would v vn nd lios o o. In that conx, consid collg-gd young n wo c ou o ousold o ll boys nd l ll you w lnnd nd ulld o—ll o sk o o ging o y ! (Evn ying bings lu o y o.) Wil w w o on bk o ou junio y o collg collg, , Kn d ngns o us o div o Disny Wold o dy. Jus going o Disny Wold Wold ws ill o —nd —nd is o is dy! dy ! Bu Kn d uc o in so n king u Sc Mounin; d clld d nd -15-
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d svions o k o on o o y voi lcs in wold, Cindll’s Csl, nd o scil sun insid csl. Cn you vn igin ow xcid I ws o wlk oug os doos nd b scod ino csl? I ldy l lik incss wi y niv inc. T ws only bginning bg inning o nig’ n ig’ss suiss. A uning o bl o i o soo, ou ncnd dinn ws suddnly nncd by ou o singing wis, snding us wi songs bou ou lov nd dliving wi fouis fing od o cis jubil! As i is w no sccul noug o is young won in lov wi is wondul young n, on o wis ocd wi buiul book bo ok o oy o y nd dcld, “A “A dlivy o inc o lc!” I ws book ddssd o “Pincss Jcqulin.” And then, w sd o b clix o is bulous vning, vning, ou wiss skd, skd, “A “A you dy o o k k icu?” icu?” “W icu?” I blud ou, suisd gin. My sw inc sild nd sid, “S is going g oing o k ou icu icu ou on blcony ovlooking Mgic Kingdo. Kingdo.”” Wll! I you ink I wlkd, you’d Wll! you’d b wong, wong , sinc I’ su I fod ou ono blcony. I knw ull wll “no on” v go o go o scil lc—o, so i sd—no on bsids Cindll wving cowds blow. Bu I ws, nd w w, nd bo I knw i, icu ws snd, wiss dd, dd , nd Kn Kndll und o nd skd o y i. Ws is lly y li Ws li?? Fo gil o n busiv bckgound, iy ls nd dyds w coon wy o disssoci o inul wold I livd in. How How uly uly ionic i ws in suc suc gicl lc, Kn would sk o b is bid. How uly ing, s wll. Wl Disny isl ws isd in n busiv o nd dd o o cing cing buiul, un, nd s lc o ilis. Ou o soing inul in is li, cd soing buiul: b uiul: Disnylnd nd Disny Wold. Wold. Ou o soing inul in y li, God ws cing o buy n I could igin. -16-
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T vy nig o ou nggn, God gv Kn nd scil bonus son wi His buy. As w l csl, w bo kd bou Jn, ou wiss, nd ow on s sd o siiul ings. S d svl ks duing ou wondul dinn bou sc o li’s uos. W sd s uc s w could wi s s svd ou dinn,, nd now i sd dinn s d ig o us o go g o bck ino sun sun nd ll w would lov o lk wi o bou is siiul uos in li s ws scing o. S ccd ou inviion, sid s go o wok 11:00 p.m., p.m., nd old us i w would co bck, w could co uld c o w ons. Kn nd I wlkd ound Mgic Kingdo vling in ou bndnw sus s n nggd coul, nd nxiously looking owd o sing wi Jn Jn bou son s us nig. Wn w wlkd bck ino su sun, n, Jn cully c unning down sis o us! W s in lobby o Cindll’s Plc nd sd wi o w bo d ound in Jsus. S kd, “You “Y ou guys g uys w so loving owd , I knw ws soing din bou you bo.” So nig, Jn bowd d nd gv g v o Jsus s Svio nd Lod. Wn w uggd good-by nd und o wlk wy down Min S, w bo sid s i: “W jus go nggd nd w jus ld soon o sonl lionsi wi Jsus!” Jsus!” I ws perfect nding o is iy-l nig. lk bou doubl joy! W wlkd ou o Mgic Kingdo bsoluly ovfowing W ovfowing wi joy. joy. As w dov bck o Ws Pl Bc, w yd God would us ou wdding cony s ooundly s H’d H’d usd ou nggn on blcony o Cindll’s Csl. Indd, in His iulnss nd ow, H did jus . A n nd Bill wo ws suing wi luki luki ndd ou wdding. H ws so oucd by ou cony d oin o s is lings wi soon wdding cion. T soon ws y o-in-lw. -17-
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As guss l cion, Bill syd bind nd Es Kndll x lind o Bill ow could know Jsus ini inily ly wy Kn Kn nd Jcki Jcki sd in i scil wdding cony. cony. Bill bowd is d dy nd skd Jsus o b is sonl Lod L od nd Svio. Svio. Ou y nig w go nggdd ws nswd wi Bill’s ngg Bill’s dcision o cc God’ G od’ss gi g i o nl li oug Jsus. Bill did wo wks l l.. H ws dy o vn, nd God d gciously usd ou wdding s sing o is nl dcision.
T G G C C H B B T o wdding cony bsoluly ockd Bill o co ws wn ll bidsids d ivd on o cuc nd i ws i o bid o wlk down isl. T c sd o icoon nd sid, sid , “Jus s sody Jsus will co o His Bid, Cuc, vn so ody, Kn cos o is bid, Jcki.” You s, y would no co o y wdding. In c, i you cn vn igin i, old o ick lcn o i. Soow I ws givn wwi wwil l o sy o y busiv is no lcn o s. Y Y i didn’ didn’ . . H ws colly unwilling o budg. So, Kn nd I yd bou ow o ndl is igly unusul nd vy inul siuion. H is w Lod H L od boug o ou o u inds: Jsus Cis will sody un nd co o His Bid, Cuc. Tn, is kbl young n o only 24 ys sondd wi n id l wi gc o God G od:: “Jcki, “Jck i, I will co nd g g you nd bing you down isl.” isl.” I qui su ni o us d v sn suc ing, ing , bu i ws wok o God oug n H d o ono nd c o in is wy. wy. No only did i disly ndnss nd ouc o Bill, Bill , bu svl o ou inds o bokn os wn on o conduc i conis s wy. In c, iy-six ys l, ou own son wlkd o on o cuc o is cious bid nd sco down isl…no c in is xodiny xodiny iy iy l. l . Bo you ow down is book in ng you didn’ v is “iy-l” nggn soy, nd bo you oll you ys, disissing -18-
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suc sninl scn, I sk you o k sll glis bcksoy o y li. T icl o is wol xinc, nd o wiing bs-slling book, Lady in Waiting, Waiting, is inul conx o y li. I olds o svn cildn, ll sxully sxul ly busd by ou . . T llou l lou ws oibl— including wo suicids o y siblings nd livs dsoyd in yid wys. So, o o ln in Book o Ru godly incils gudd y nd k o ying Bozo guy— g uy— is blssing I nu nu-sisiclly s wi ny won wo s uls! A nus I onc sid o , “I is zing o ink soon o you bckgound would ick suc n wso usbnd. usbnd.”” Wll, zing nd wso Wll, ibus ibus o God, nd suly suly His His nd ws guiding oc in y vy biliy o y y Boz.
M’’ H…D M H …D’ ’ S S Mo, s you sk s k vy bs o you dug’ dug ’ss uu, wo wondul liis: “T o’ o’ss is cild’ cild’ss scooloo scooloo;” ;”1 nd, “On good goo d o is wo undd scoolss. sc oolss.””2 oo ny ns ssu s nd di gs infuncs in livs o i cildn, bu is is bsoluly no u. Consid ollowing suvy suls: An xnsiv sudy o 272,400 ngs conducd by USA oday Weekend Magazine ound 70 cn o ns idniid i ns s os ion inlunc in i livs. wny-on wny-on cn sid bou i inds ( (s), s), nd only 8 cn nd di. di.””3 You bs c o you dug, nd i is Jsus wo ovids bs uoils s w jouny o is godly gils. Tis book is uoil I ws givn g ivn llowd ll owd o c y dug on o bco b co gil g il God’ss nd young won discning noug o void Bozo guys nd God’ wi o God’s God’s bs o — Boz, ill o sng. sng. Tis book is o vy o. W o no you wid o you Boz o vn id Bozo, you dug cn v b d. S cn -19-
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k good coics wi l o wis cld o! Tis book is ull o nuggs nugg s o u God gv s I yd nd vn sd o li o ou dug. I Bozo ib is incsing; I wcd ny o s Bozo guys swing ound y dug, vn in iv Cisin Cisin scool. scool . Tis book is oionl “oly sw” o on o ssion bou God’s bs o dug nd ny o dugs God s boug ino li oug dcds o cing s incils.
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Introduction Lady in Waiting Waiting is not about finding the right man, but becoming the right woman. he Lady in Waiting recklessly abandons herself to the Lordship of Christ, diligentlyy uses her single days, diligentl trusts God with unwaering faith, demonstrates irtue in daily life, loves God with undistracted undistracted deotion, stands for physical physical and emotional purity, purity, lies in security, responds to life in contentment, makes choices based on her conictions, and waits patiently patiently for God God to meet her needs.
Wo sould d is book? Any o wi b in lungs wo is knly w o ngiv ic o ou culu on ou cious gils. Ou culu ncougs gils o u o o ino nding ig i o jns n ig kind o n. No wond ou dugs lling o Bozo guys! T incils in is book inndd o gud nd o guid: to guard you dug o Bozo guy nd to guide owd n -21-
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wo wiing o— od odn n Bo Boz. z. Ts incil incils s v b bn n ug ug o ls ou dcds o ousnds o gils, wo now living i “ily v s.”
he principles in this book are intended to he guard and to guide: to guard your daughter rom a Bozo guy and to guide her toward a man worth waiting or—a modern Boaz. Bcoing ig won: is gol. And oins lid ou bov wok o usuing gol. Ec c will includ suy o incil lso ound in Lady in Waiting aiting.. As o, I v gown in y ssion coin o wn cious os coss Aic bou Bozo guys wo would i cisd dugs. I would lik o c illion os nsbl concs in is book, so s os cn s wi o os—os wo inn innionl ionl bou ocing i gils o soul-dging ic o Bozo guys. T concs in is book “ guds” o you dug’ss nd yous. dug’ By wy o clicion, I wn o k no bou s young n I cll Bozos. A no oin I disissing c y people loed by God wo dsv ou kindnss nd ys. W all sinns svd by gc. So, y is no indicn o son; i’s cicu o bvio w wn o sgud sg ud ou gils gins. g ins. Bozos cn b Cisins o non-Cisins, young o old, innionl o incidnl in i oivs; bu y sill ol Jsus did o. uly uly bs ing young ldy cn ln is o cogniz oo bvio nd s i s signl o y o guy— as s sks God o giv wisdo in guding . Wi l you d R Wil Raisi aising ng a Lady in Waiting Waiting,, I o you will nd is bonus o you . As you no you dug in s li-icing incils, you will lso ic gils you dug willl us wil us ino you li li. . Tis bo book ok is si sil l nd ndbo book ok o ny o -22-
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insd in king n nl ic on cild nd ll o cildn wo coss .
I M—F P I by ny cnc you o wo inks i is oo l—b ncougd. T b in you nosils is oo o o God is no nisd wi you or you you dug y. I v don lny o ings wong s o, so I ws lwys insid by xl o Rb lo wo no only convd o u God o Isl, bu lso isd os idl son: Boz. k w ons o ond liy li y : Rb, o osiu, osiu, isd son wo no only bc lding n in lov soy o Book o Ru, bu ws lso ill o sng nd n wo wiing o.. Jus d c o c 2 o Book o Ru. As you glis g lis godly god ly ccisics o Boz, k in ind is did no lwys k g coics. Bu ciicl coic in Josu c 2 cngd no only uu, bu yous nd in. A o osiu osiu ndd u in Mssinic lin (s M. 1:5), nd by God’s gc, isd Boz, no Bozo guy. In God’s c ocsion, I uly bliv ving bn o osiu d Rb vn more snsiiv o ising son wo ocd won’s sxuliy n xloiing i.
V C P C Ls y I bgn Bibl sudy clld, “usdys Wi Jcki”. Tis sudy ws on cus o Pl Bc Alnic Univsiy nd ws o gils only. Bginning wi vy s ing, w ddssd issus s gils w cing in i vydy livs. As I bgn b gn o lisn l isn o so ny gils wo w king suc unwis nd oibl coics, I wnd o sc! W ns, nd w you inisis cing (o no cing) ou cildn? PBA is Cisin libl s collg, nd I ws sunnd by w s gils didn’ know. I wnd o cy ou, “A you uncucd? Did -23-
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you ici in cuc you gou? Did you you so no c you basics bou God’s bs o you o guidlins o ving li o God-dsignd God-dsig nd n Hollywood-cd? Hollywoo d-cd? Didn’ Didn’ you you ld o you ns ns lk o you bou no ding Bozo guys?” guys ?” (I won ou jus wiingg bou is oubus wiin oubus o indignion!) I k inking bou ow w s ns so concnd bou ou kids doing wll in scool nd ging ino collg o i coic. Bu ’ss c: ’ c : I know oo ny kids wo ssing scool nd funking li in i lionsis. Pns nd you inisis iling o ou gils o scond os ion dcision o i livs. O cous s os ion dcision is wo will b i Ms (in o wods, i bcoing ollows o Jsus Cis). Bu scond os i on dcision o i livs is: wo will b i Mist Mister? er?
I know too many kids who are passing school and lunking lie in their rela rel ationships tionships.. T bs collg- cous is lning ilss incils in book Lady Lady in Waiting Waiting.. Now Now,, cinly o cn buy book bo ok o gil g il nd o s ds i. Bu nkly, nkly, book’ boo k’ss ic will b b gnid gni d i young gil s bn inoducd o incils on dily bsis, wi Mo odling gowing g owing lov lionsi lionsi wi God.
“Cf ’ N” M Knowing ow ull o’s o’s li is on dily bsis, I wo is book s s suion su ion o ll l l I v lnd duing dcds o ning nd noing ousnds o gils. I v d undds o books, books , so is coilion o ll I v lnd, squzd squ zd ino on volu. In c, you cn consid is “Cli Nos” o y dcds o scing o nsbl concs o l os is gils wo will no bco Bozo gns. (A bck o is book you will s lis o ny books I v d—nd i is no vn col!) -24-
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Tis book ws bon b on ou o gnuin budn o vy o o ln bsics o ising dug wo no only onl y ks dinc o God in is wold, bu lso cs cs Boz n n Bozo guy. guy. T book is ull u ll o bsic incils o you o c you gil before s is cd o oosi sx. I you dug is ldy “cusing” on boy scool, is book is us-d—bo cus cuss her . I you gil s ldy dd Bozo guy wo s bokn , you cn bgin o s wi ings you lning o k su s dosn’ k s isk wic.
G P, P On o gs nnivsy gis y usbnd nd I v civd ws i o P Pis, is, Pgu, nd London. On o ou ds inds gv us n invlubl cuso guidbook g uidbook o ou i in Pis. I I includd s, sun su n suggsions, dily scil s cil discouns ous usus, nd dils bou wn o go o c ouis so. Ou ind vn old us wic ls o w in od o g bs discouns. S d livd in Pis, so s knw ow o njoy ciy wiou unning unning u ug cdi cd bills. bills . H s s w kd kd o sow us xcly w wlking ous o k o ou ol. Svl ol v d cois o is incdibl sonl guid o Pis. Wn w w w in Pgu Pgu nd London, w issd ving ving s g souc vilbl o us. I l lik this book will b lul ou guidbook s you nuv oug cllngs o ising Young Ldy in Wiing, nd voiding ynny o cious cild bcoing Bozo gn. You nd o xos o ings k sndds ig. As n/no n/n o,, you’ you’ ding nd ying o God’ God’ss bs o you gil. Mos o you v suc good g ood gils you’ you’ no woid bou . Wll, l ll you lil soing. I d good gil. I v good gil. Bu I wcd w I ndd o ncoug o k sndds ig, o gud ind, nd o not sl. So I’ going o go ov so ings I’ oing you ldy know. In c, I’ using you know s -25-
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ings. Bu i you nd yousl sying, “Wll, I’ll b ons, I did no know ,” n, is God you’ ody. I is w clssoo clssoo cous o ou gils, ky xbook would b y li book, Lady in Waiting Waiting . T book you old in you nd uilizs incils in li book. I lso xounds on o bn o o/no/c. T ollowing quiz is jus s o cliy cli y w you ldy know s o nd w you y wn “s cous.” I will l you o xin you s so you cn discn o clly o you cious gil. T quiz lso ovids glis o oics o b ddssd ougou book; w will co bck o c o s qusions, in no icul od, od, in gs d.
P Q P Q M Key Question: Am I Prepared to Raise a Young Lady in Waiting? W aiting? (Can I Help Preve Prevent nt My Daughter From Marr Marryying a Bozo?)
1. Do you know wy old guys d young gils? 2. Is you dug gowing in lov o Jsus, nd dos s s suc gow in you? 3. Is you you dug xincd xincd in doing o os? os? Dos s l ou o nd cuc? Dos s s is y o dilignc in o, wo is is ol odl? 4. W is king you n o doing o os? Is Is you n oo sl-ocusd? Dos s only do o os wn i bnis in long un? 5. Dos you n v No-Bozo H Gud? Dos s undsnd signiicnc o ging “svn” “svn” dily? (S (S RoRo ns 10:17.) 6. Mo, did you know sx uins goo goodd lionsi lionsi o susins bd on? -26-
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7. Mo, did you know gils ly sx o g lov nd boys ly lov o g sx? 8. Dos you dug gs i s will will coninu o usu God’s , s will c soon wo will ncoug o coninu o gow—nd y will b c o’s siiul clds? (S Hbws 10:24.) 9. Mo, do you know w w “No “No Zon” is? Dos you n know bou “No “ No Zon,” nd bou sying ou o i? 10. Mo, do you know wy wy n gils go oo ? Would Would you know ow o xlin lw o diinising diinis ing uns uns o you dug dug nd inds? 11. Do you know wy so ny cious gils y y Bozo guys? guys ? Did you know sx blinds gil o Bozo s is ding o cd o? 12. Do you know you you dug’s dug’s “lov nk” nk” lvl? I ly ly is bsn, lov nk nds sun sunul ul illing by vnly F. Scu in Jsus, H us ill dici. 13. Is you ng ildly conn o n incssn win? M-cnic gils “Bozo bi”…on slis n cing no nd wning insn giicion. 14. Do you know ow o b “siiul “siiul onio” o you dugdug’ss “cusing” on guys? ’ g uys? 15. Dos you n cy cy (in wll wll o on cll on) lis o quliis dscib M. M. Rig? Rig ? 16. Dos you n know know ow o void wing wing cins cins on wdding dy? (S Scond Coinins 6:14.) 17. How in is you n? Wiing Wiing is quis quisi i o “n wo wiing o”; ii iinc nc is sis wy o b Bozo bi. (W ( Wos n wiing is wising you yo u d!) How did you do, Mo? A you ling ncougd o discougd? us ; y bo good lcs o b, bcus y fc cbl -27-
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. You You ucsd is book bo ok bcus you wn o giv you dug bs vilbl wisdo o ic scond os ion dcision o li: wo will b Mis. T ky o ising ising Young Young Ldy in Wiing is o o odl od l godly go dly cccc isics yousl. I you d Lady in Waiting Waiting bo you bc o, you obbly vy ili wi lis blow; o, you y nd s cous on s incils. Wn you s Mo conduc yousl s Ms. Rig, i is si o c you dug ccisics o Ldy in Wiing. W iing. Fo now, now, l’s l’s k look lis: • Bing Young Ldy o Rc Rcklss klss Abndon • Bing Young Ldy o Dilig Dilignc nc • Bing Young Ldy o Fi • Bing Young Ldy o Vi Viu u • Bing Young Ldy o Dvo Dvoion ion • Bing Young Ldy o Puiy • Bing Young Ldy o Sc Scuiy uiy • Bing Young Ldy o Connn • Bing Young Ldy o Convicion • Bing Young Ldy o Pinc Wn you look is lis, dos i k you sil wi condnc o l ovwld? Tis book will cliy c godly ccisic nd ncoug you s you ncoug you dug. T coing cs will nsw ll qusions o quiz you jus ook, nd lso o “so visis” wi wi Ru suiz suiz c c’ c’ss iy incil. Fo os wo v no d Lady in in Waiting, Waiting, I v wo ings o you o k in ind: Fis, i is bsd on cious lov soy bwn Ru nd Boz. Rding Book o Ru (i’s only ou cs) will nnc you ciion ciion o w w you will d in in this book. Scond, c c o is book boo k bgins bg ins wi suion suion o incil ug in Lady in Waiting. T suion will b lul, bu ding Lady Lady in Waiting Waiting would would b os lul. -28-
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O M E M Insingly, I wo is icul scion before I bgn is book. I ws ldy concnd d would nd u ling lik ilu ding is il. So l’s begin book wi discli discl i I wo bo Inoducion Inoducion ws vn in oug d o. Disclaimer:
Ts wods n o “ow cold w” in you c i by cnc you und und illusion xiss so y o c oul oul o succssully noing you cild. Ts gs g s sily dscib ilgig I v bn on s o. I di o ll I sily llow suggl wo is ddicd o o in Jsus. I no cd o ouco o y cildn’s livs. Bu I am cd, o ndcud, o Jsus, only uncngbl liy on is . Ou cildn v good dys nd y v bd ys, bu Jsus ins s. Scuiy is building you li ound n uncngbl liy…Jsus: s ody, ysdy, nd ov (s Hb. 13:8). As o ou cildn: y s o on nd cngd o wil nd oully snding ov wi Jsus! T bs ing you cn do o os you lov so dly d ly is…be intoxicate intoxicated d with Jesus!
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Raising a Young Young Lady of Reckless Abandon R’ R R’ R A In Book o Ru, young widow d ciicl dcision o un bck on ol, couny, nd gods bcus isy soul d sd o God o Isl. Wi jus “s,” s gv sl o only u God by lving olnd o Mob nd ollowing gd o-in-lw, Noi. Ru bndond only li s d known. So ig cll i cklss o lv on’s ol wi no o o b id in sng lnd. Bu Ru bndond sl to soing, nd o someone. S cklssly bndond sl o God o ll Cion. But Ruth said, “Do not urge me me to leae you or turn back from followfollowing you; for where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God” (Ru 1:16).
Ru d dind . T Lod onod i in oving wy o ll ws ili nd king jouny owd colly unknown. Ru did no llow l low inds, old suoundings, o culu’s dd i o k o unning d God. S did no us -31-
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xcus o dk s o k o big uu bgn wi s ciicl coic: cklss bndon o Lod God. Fooldy. Rs. Clss disgd. Widw suo. Giv u. Lv. Do ny o s s k you ink o ig osu bo God? Ty synonys o wods reckless nd abandon disly divin iony o ou cll o subi ouslvs wolly uno Lod. T osl Pul clld cl ld isl isl “ool o o Cis.” Cis.” Jsus Hisl “disgdd s” s H ung uon coss (s Hb. 12:2 NL NL ). As dugs o King wo gv g v Hisl o us, w o giv g iv ouslvs o Hi, lving wold, giving u ou sgis, nd widwing suo o wils o dvil nd wys o fs. Rcklss bndon is ow w fing ouslvs owd God nd uly osk ou sinul nu nu. .
Reckless abandon is how we ling ourselves toward God and utterly orsake our sinul nature.
T “S “S ‘Y ‘ Y’” M How dos won disly own “cklss bndon” bndon” o God? Go d? Dos Do s s v o lv ily, oown, nd ll inds o ov suc coin? Wll, occsionlly God ig sk o soon, bu os o Wll, i s sily nds n ds o wk u in oning nd sou “Y “ Ys” o wv Lod s lnnd o . (Now, i you ily is sill sl, you y wn o wis “Ys” o Jsus.) In is sinl wok, Mere Chris Christianity tianity, C.S. Lwis dscibd o ouniy w c vy oning—nd gin nd gin ougou c dy—o “g o ‘Ys’”: I cos vy on you wk u c oning. All you wiss nd os o dy us you lik wild nils. nils. And first job c oning consiss sily in soving ll bck; in -32-
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lisning o o voic, king o oin o viw viw,, ling o lg, lg, song, song, qui li co c o lowing in. And so on, ll dy. Snding bck o ll you nul ussings nd ings; coing in ou o wind.1 Tis “sou ‘Ys’” od y s silisic, bu n gil wo sid “Ys” o God ws givn ivilg o bing o o Jsus, ou Mssi. My ws no cosn by God bcus s ws suio o ll n gils in nigboood o you gou. My ws cosn bcus God Go d knw s would wou ld sy ys. H is ng’ ng ’ss sons o ngl Gbil: And Mary said said,, “Behold, “B ehold, the bondslae bondsl ae of the Lord Lord;; may it be b e done to me according to your word.” And the angel departed from her
(Luk 1:38). In sk cons o young My’s “Ys” o vn-sn ssignn, Sciu lls us bou n old is wo, six ons li, suggld o sy “Ys” o is icl wn lking o s ngl Gbil (s Luk 1). An dul wo ws siiul ld sisd osc o icl God ws oising— cild givn in old g. And ws consu iony: bcus o is suggl nd siion o sy wod yes, Zcis (lso known s Zechariah), o Jon Bis, ws suck u unil is icl son ws bon. And behold, you shall be silent and unable to speak until the day when these things take place, because you did not beliee my words…
(Luk 1:20). T ngl Gbil sok wi n old is nd young gil, nd young gil sondd wi cklss bndon o os zing nd cllnging ssignn. Sying “Ys” o God is n c o dily sund nd disly o on’s own cklss bndon. Dos you dug know you wk u souing “Ys” o God? Is you dug gowing g owing in lov o Jsus? A you odling suc ssion? Dos you dug v coug o sy “Ys” o God’s ln ov ssu o own gnd o li? -33-
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D F N M (H A B) Rcklss bndon is lvl o sund unlocks gs sus God s in so o His kids. In c, sying “Ys” o Jsus s cdd vy icl I v v xincd duing s oy-v ys s His ollow o llow..
Reckless abandon is a level o surrender that unlocks the greatest treasures God has in store or His kids. ki ds. T vy ssg bid Lady in Waiting ivd on dlss Fidy nig in 1972. I sid “Y “ Ys” o oly nudg nudg o sy in y collg coll g do oo n go o ll wi so o y inds. I sid “Ys” o i wi Jsus in Wod, Wod, nd I go g o n zing icl. L ll you bou icl-oducing dlss Fidy nig: Bo I bc Cisin, I dd y sdily. Tn I bc Cisin Cis in nd ickings bc sli. So, wn I go scolsi sc olsi o nd Cisin Cisin collg, I ssud ings would bgin bg in o ick u. How suisd I ws o nd ysl dlss on svl Fidy nigs! On nig ldy niond, y coic o sy in do bc lik d nig wi Jsus. As I s in y oo, y clos w cully ou on ds! Svl o y cus ous d bn boowd so o gils would look nic o i ds. In c, ind o in go nggd in on o y voi ous. On on-y nnivsy, usbnd skd i s could w cu ou s wo nig y w nggd. S lid, “Su! L cll Jcki!” H ws kn bck. “Wy on would you v o cll Jcki?” “Wll, i I’ going o w dss, I nd o boow i, bcus dss blongs o Jcki.” H! My clos w vy busy in collg—vy oul, lwys on ds. I, on o nd, wsn’ wsn’ nly s oul oul s y clos w. -34-
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So, bck o ul Fidy nig. I ws siing in y do oo inking “Lod, I don’ wn o ws is i, nd I don’ wn o l soy o ysl. I nd You coo. I nd wod o You so I don’ v o v s iy is on Fidy nigs…Sudys…Sundy noons—ll is I ssud I would b ding!” Aloug I ws young Cisin, I knw bs ing o do wn you wn coo. I I ws no o go o ll, ov, ov, o cll ind, ind, bu o on God’s Wod. So in do oo on y d wi Jsus, I dcidd o d Book o Ru, bcus cl sk oning d d o i s lov lo v soy nd soy w young won bok ily’s godlss cycl nd bgn nw li wi u God. In is cious lil Book o Ru, God sowd incils bc n oulin o How to Wait Wait for God’s God’s Best.
So w ws so iculous bou nding s incils o voiding Bozo s li ? ? T icl ws (nd is) me! H H is ow y ily ws dscibd on bck o y book, Free Yourself Yourself to Loe. As suvivo o sv s v cildood bus, Jcki Kndll Kndll is n x on ogivnss. A counslo dd ily “on o o-n os dysuncionl in Aic.” oug wo siblings coid suicid nd os dod do d sl-dsuciv lisyls, lisyls , Jcki Jcki wnd o bk old nd bco ly, ly, loving won. My svly dysuncionl dysuncionl bckgound bckg ound d d o ick loser ( Bozo)! Givn y ubinging, y ily xl, nd conx o vybody I n wi, y lov ws dsind o b on. Bu God ook “givn” nd gv soing ls in is lc. H gv n oulin o His incils o oc o sling o lss n God’s bs! And n H gv ivilg o sing os incils wi o singl gls. And then H gv y vy own Boz. Mn Mnyy o you know is, bu o os wo don’, ky cc, lding n in Book o Ru is nd Boaz. And, s you cn s, i you cng on lil l in is n, cn go o winn o Bozo. God xcngd y oscs o Bozo wi gi o y Boz. -35-
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On dlss Fidy nig, I sid, “Ys” o oly nudg o snd x i wi Jsus, nd I ws sd “living ll” o ying Bozo. Insd, I v bn id o y Boz o iy-svn ys. Toug ssg in Book o Ru, I lnd ow o bk y ily’s dsuciv cycl nd bc, wi cklss bndon, God’s God’s bs o . Prep Quiz Question No. 2: Is your daughter growing in her love for Jesus, and does she see see such growth in you?
You know, ss ing you cn y o nd ncoug you ng o v is growing relationship relationship with Jesus. S dosn’ v o b Billy G so dy, o lik is zing c dug, Ann G Loz. S dosn’ v o b nx B Moo. W I sking you, Mo, s qusions: Cn you ll i you dug is gowing siiully? Is on o siiul ings? I you cn’ sy yes, yes, you v c y qus. You You know ow o y y o . . Mos, w y o ou kids o k junio ig cing squd, bu do w y s ssionly y c on i own lionsis wi Cis? And do y c on i inds in i lionsis wi Cis?
Reckless abandon is how we ling ourselves toward God and utterly orsake our sinul nature.
M L’ L’ S S How old dos gil v o b o ncoug no gil siiully? So ol ink gil s o b in ig scool o ncoug suggling bs ind. Y ’s g nws— is no g lii on God using young . T is no wig quin o ig iniu o lov o God o ou oug o gil. A gndo I know lls wondul soy o l-nig incincion bwn wo BFFs. Ts gils w no snios in ig scool; y w in lny scoo scool!l! On nig nig Mddi, wo ws n ys old, couldn’ g o sl bcus s ws so nxious bou ving o ov wy o ily nd inds. S d los o o cnc jus -36-
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y bo, wic ws d souc o nxiy. Unbl o sl, Mddi xd ind Libby nd old ow nxious s ws bou oving. Libby xd bck nd old ind o d Js c 1, is o l cl down. Wn I d is is soy, soy, s lld y ys, nd joy lld y , , bcus I know God cn us ny is gowing in Jsus. Libby, g o lvn, d ldy bn lning ow o su ind owd using God n duling o nxiy nxi y. And let us consider how we may spur one one another on toward loe and and good deeds (Hbws 10:24 NIV).
In o Gosls w old ow Jsus ncougd o l o ll llow ow cild c ildn n o o co c o o Hi (s M. 19:14; 19 :14; Mk 10:14; 10: 14; Luk 18:16). H knw cildn on, cbl, libl, libl , nd no cyniclly dnd by wold s y. Ou gils, o on y cn sk nd d, cn b vssls usd by God. Don’ llow g o b ss on God’s using you cil cild. d. Going ino bl siiu siiully lly is o u, bu cild cn cinly ln o lov nd b kind nd o sv God vy young g—lik Sul wo svd in l o kindgn g owd! I cn’ l bu un o on o soy w ngl Gbil old young ng s would b o o Mssi. H ws ng wo sily sondd o ngl’s oound dclion: “You will b wi wi cild, cild,” wi wi os os gnuin gnuin qus qusio ion: n: “How “How cn cn is is b?” T ngl sid, “W is iossibl wi n is ossibl wi God.” And ’s is lil n, “OK, n l i b. Wv. I’ His s vn” (s Luk 1:31-38). In Living Bibl vsion, My sid, “I am the Lord’s serant, and I am willing to do whatever he wants. May eerything Lord’s you said come true” true” (Luk 1:38).
I lov ng sid “wv” o God. Unlik is usg ody, My’ss “wv” ws no scsic; My’ s csic; , , i ws fcion o o libl, yildd . Tis ng didn’ d idn’ sy, “A “A you wacked ?” ?” S sily sid, “How is is ossibl?” And ws ll ig. I ws lgii qusion. God lovs ou lgii qusions. -37-
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Y Y D D P P W W M M! ! You dug is no going o v n ngl ll s will b o o Mssi, bu would you dug v sid “Ys” o suc onouncn by n ngl? onouncn ngl ? O is s n n wo would v bn o woid bou ns ns’’ ougs o uiliion wi ncé? Would W ould s b o consud by w s igind o ol ol would ink bou n w Jsus inks? T ss lc o you gil o b is lc w s is o concnd bou w God inks n w nybody ls inks—ossibly including vn ns wo y v ds o God nv dd. Bo Gnsis 1:1, God d ln o ou cildn wo know Jsus. Tis zing ln is vid in Scond ioy 1:9, Rons 8:29, Esins 1:4-5, nd Isi 25:1. Do you undsnd ow sgiclly God s lnnd you li nd you dug’s? His d o bo o you is so wso! Wo wl wlks ks in suc d ds s?? Gils nd won wo g gs s s sc c o lbs box— wondul wod icu o Young Ldy o Rcklss Abndon.
T S S A A B In dys o Jsus, wn young won cd g g o vilbiliy o ig, ily would ucs n lbs box o nd ll i wi cious oinn. T siz o box nd vlu o oinn fcd ily’s wl. T oinn-lld box ws o dowy. Wn young n c o sk o nd in ig, s would sond by king lbs box nd bking i is . Tis gsu o noining is sowd s owd i ono. On dy wn Jsus ws ing in ous o Sion l l ,, won c in, bok lbs box nd oud vlubl oinn on Jsus’’ d (s M Jsus Mkk 14:3-9). T ssg in Luk 7:36-50 s o is vn sly dscibs s won in ciy wo ws sinn, king s on icully wickd nd udly dvd. Bu is -38-
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bokn won ound Jsus woy o suc scic nd ono s iskd vn o ublic s o o is dd. In c, Jsus oilizd oilizd gsu in Mw 26:13, sying, “I tell you the truth, truth, whereer this gospel is preached preached throughout throughout the the world, what she she has done will also be told, in memory of her” (NIV). Cn you igin ow
ngy ol w Jsus oilizd “sinn”? “sinn”? Wy W y o go, King Jsus! Tis bokn lbs box is ull o g ning. T won no only unwiingly noind Jsus o His ocing buil, s lso gv ll o vnly Bidgoo. Ys, s ws sinn. Wo isn’? (S Rons 3:23.) Bu is sinn d ds, nd s wisly bok lbs box in snc o only On wo cn k won’s ds co u. W is in you lbs box? b ox? What is in your daughter’s? Is i ull o ds bgun wn s ws lil, ncougd by ing o iy ls bou ncnd couls wo livd ily v ? Hs s ldy bokn box o young n wo s no ullld ullld ds, nd s vn bokn so o ? W ll wn ou gils o old on igly o i lbs boxs o W ds, c o ov scing o n woy o box’s cious conns. W lbs box is bok boknn o sld su, I ncoug you o guid in binging i o o Jsus. T s is u o ll o us. Wn you’v lcd you lbs box His , you will b bl o sond lik My o vn-sn ssignn. Wn My ws skd o bco gnn wil nggd o Jos, s did no gu wi ngl. H sons ws o won wo d l ldy dy bokn l lbs bs box o Jos Jos nd ws now dy o k bokn box nd ly i o vnly Bidgoo. S sid, “I belong to the Lord, body and soul…” (Luk 1:38 Pillis). I s lbs box soy o ncoug us s won o coninulconinully giv ou ds o God nd o ncoug ou dugs o yully do s. Ds xcions o on’s . oo on -39-
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xcions o ou s bco did snns wn no givn o God o o guding (s Pov. 4:23).
oo oten the expect oo expecta ations o our hearts become premeditated resentments when not given to God or proper guarding.
S G F D W J I old you bou y Fidy d nig wi Jsus in collg. T c is I v nv ougown os scil ds. Hv you v bn on d wi Jsus? Svl ys go, I lizd I d olly Fidy nig (ll y ily ws ou o own). I skd ysl, “W you going o do wi you nig?” As soon s I skd ysl qusion, y ’s ly ws, “I cn go on d wi Jsus!” So I wn ou o Sing Islnd nd sn vning siing on blcony ig foos u, wiing o ull oon o is nd njoying d wi Jsus. I boug long y Bibl nd jounl nd y y Rolodx. Jus s I bgn o y oug oug so o ny y y quss, I usd o look ocn, nd suddnly I sw inbow. Now, inbow is no uniqu wn i s ind—bu i dn’ dn’ ind ind!! I jus gz gzdd inbow inbow in w nd bgn o cy. H I ws, jus bginning y d wi Jsus, nd H blssd wi inbow bo ull oon c u. lk bou doubl oion. I sd o ink bou w inbow sns— iul ois o Lod—nd I jus cid inking o ny oiss God s d nd kept. I dcidd o look u ll ncs in Bibl ling o inbow nd I discovd n (No, Ezkil, nd Jon) wo sw inbows. Ec o inbows ws din, y ll n d soing in coon—y cd d cicusncs. (S Gnsis 9; Ezkil 1; Rvlion 4 nd 10.) -40-
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As I oug bou inbows Ezkil nd Jon sw, I lizd i viw ws o vnly sus. T inbows w so csully look fcion o vnly ooy, no ly scinic wond! I will nv s inbow gin wiou considing inbow suounds on o vn (s (s Rv. 4:3) nd vn’s vn’s inbow o glo g loy y bou Holy On (s Ezk. 1:28). On ig c, wi big oon liging bc, I ondd gi God d givn vning. W is i o xinc buy o inbow wiou going oug so? H is w God sowd : we can be b e rainbows of hope in people’s people’s lies een when they aren’t facing storms. Tn, wn i sos iv—nd y invibly will—y will— y will s loo looking king o inb inbows ows o ois ois s skk o i s. I isd y nds o is Lod o inbow insig, nd suddnly din ull oon cug y y gin. gin. I ws civd civd by i nd oug bou ow wy i ws nd w o, ocus, coin, ssion, nncs, nd scics w w xd o lnd n n on oon nd ln n Aicn fg . As I ondd is, y bgn bg n o giv s I lizd n could y suc huge price to touch the moon bu w ly willing o xnd suc ssion o ouc o the One who made the moon. When I consider your heaens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you hae set in place, what is man that you are mind ful of him… (Psls 8:3-4 NIV).
Diving bck o o y d wi Jsus, I ond y “ull oon” Diving o on” oo nd wosid Lod ull ol! W n zing un I go on invsn o on Fidy Fidy nig. How bundnly bundnly God on blcony wi disly o His slndo nd inisy o y . Sunding y “” i o Lod, y d wi Jsus blssd o n ny i o g o nig wi Nfix. Wn I isd y ig nd oug oo in is, I sd o gin, lizing on y isd nd oucd o On wo gv inbow wil I ws wiing o ull oon. -41-
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R D W L T H P In Jun o 1996, I d Svn Silbg bing inviwd bou is wok wi Holocus suvivos. H boug ou won nd G, on o w won wo suvivd D Mc duing WWII. T c wn o Polnd o Czcoslovki; i ws undd ils nd ons long. G old n sounding soy. S cound on noon in concnion c in Polnd, s ws old ll won w going on wlk. Jus bo lving, clld o coss couyd nd ylld, “G, u on you boos!” I ws Jun Jun nd ll l l young gils g ils w boo, including G. Bu, bing good Jwis gil, s knw no o gu wi P. So ws G, uing on boos in Jun o k wlk, ssuing, o cous, s would un o c. c. Tis obdin young won suvivd w und ou o b on odl bcus s lisnd o P. S wcd o gils bking o i os lik wigs s i oz nig. G wcd undds di o i uwd—s s suvivd in boos. W n xodiny xodiny soy o sils, y os oound oviovision by God. G’s soy is cllng o ll o “P’s” cildn (s Gl. 4:6). Ou vnly F knows c w on, nd H lon knows w is d o c o us. So wn H givs us insucion—vn wn i dosn’ dosn’ k sns (s Is. 55:8-9)—w nd n d o lisn o P. Tis T is swi obdinc is cinly o ou cklss bndon o Hi. L’s consid so bsic insucions o P. Wic o “boos in Jun” o you? 1. Lov Lod you God wi ll you you , soul, nd nd ind (s M. 22:37). 2. Lov you you nigbo s yousl (s M. M. 22:39). 3. Mk Mk Kingdo o God you i iy y concn (s M. 6:33). -42-
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4. B nxious o noing (s Pil. 4:6). 5. Py wiou csing (s 1 ss. ss. 5:17). 6. B sudn o Wod (s 2 i. 2:15). 7. In vying giv nks nks (s 1 ss. ss. 5:18). 8. Fogiv s ly s you v bn ogivn by Cis Cis (s E. 4:32). 9. Es os os o ion n yousl (s Pil. 2:3-4). 10. Sy “Ys” “Ys” o God’s God’s sci n clinging clingi ng o you own gnd (s Luk 1:37-38). A you s cllngd by G’s soy s I ws? A you lik G wn i cos o obying you vnly P? O you lik oo ny o God’s gils wo would gu bou wing boos nd ossibly s cing wiou F’s F’s guidnc g uidnc??
Our daughters’ trained capacity to hear and obey God will prooundly impact their journey on Planet Pl anet Earth, and help them to discover God’s best or their lives. My w, s wll s ou dugs, b dy o oby nd sy “Ys” o P’s insucion. W nd o y dily ou dugs will lisn o nd oby i vnly P. P. Ti ind cciy o nd oby ob y God will ooundly ic i jouny on Pln E, nd l o discov God’s God’s bs o i livs (s (s Jon 10:10).
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2. Would you yo u dscib yousl yous l s “Ys” “Ys” o? By is I don’ don’ n “Ys” o vy dnd o you cild, bu “Ys” o Jsus dily (s Luk 1:37-38). 3. W ks ks you you o dily “Y “Ys” s” o Jsus? Jsus? Discuss C.S. Lwis quo ldy niond: I cos vy on you wk u c oning. All you wiss nd nd os o dy us you lik lik wild nils. And And first job c oning consiss sily in soving ll bck; in lisning l isning o o voic, king o oin o viw,, ling o lg, song, viw song, qui li co lowl owing in. And so on, ll dy. Snding bck o ll you nul ussings nd ings; coing in ou o wind. 2 4. Is you dug gowing in lov o Jsus, nd dos s s suc gow in you? (S (S Fis P 2:2; Scond P 1:3-9.) 5. Dos you dug v “Libby” in li wo ncougncougs wi Bibl wn s is nxious? Is you dug “Libby” o n nxious nd ul ind? 6. Discuss you you ds ds o you you li; discuss bo yous yous nd you you dug’s nd o bk you lbs boxs o Jsus (s Luk 7:36-50; Is. 25:1; Ro. 8:32). 7. H Hv v you v bn on d d wi Jsus? 8. Discuss soy soy o G lisning o P. P. Would Would you v lisnd? Would Would you dug v lisnd? lisnd ? Look Loo k lis o insucions o ou vnly P nd discuss wic insucion in lis would b “boos in Jun” o you?
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Endnotes
Preface
1. “Hny Wd Bc Quos,” inkExis.co, :// inkxis.co/quoion/_o-s__is__ cild-s_scooloo/153259.l (ccssd Sb 24, 2012). 2. “Gog “Gog Hb Pl Quos,” goo goodds.co, dds.co, ://www ://www.. goodds.co/quos/192078-on-good-o-is-wo-undd-scoolss (ccssd Sb 24, 2012). 3. Sv Wig Wig wi Cis Gvs, A Parent Parent Priilege, by (Wk Fos, NC: InQus Publising, 2008), 18.
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1. C.S. Lwis, Mere Ch Christianity ristianity (Nw Yok: HCollins, 2001), 198. 2. Ibid. -231-
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Chapter 2: Raising a Young Lady of Diligence
1. Ki Dvis, Kisses from Katie: A Story of Relentless Loe and Redemption (Nw Yok: Sion & Scus, Inc, 2011), xi. 2. Rond Gn, Fcbook os. 3. Ly Cbb, Encour Encouragement:he agement:he Key to Caring (Gnd Rids: Zondvn Publising Hous, 1984), 10. 4. Biblso’s Nw Exusiv Song’s Nubs nd Concodnc wi Exndd Gk-Hbw Diciony, CD-ROM, Biblso, Inc. nd Innionl Bibl nslos, Inc. (1994, 2003, 2006) s.v. “suo,” (N 4834). 5. Ki Dvis, Kisses from Katie, xi.
Chapter 3: Raising a Young Lady of Faith
1. Brown-Drier-Briggs Brown-Drier-Briggs Hebrew and Englis Englishh Lexicon, Unabridged, Elconic Dbs, Biblso, Inc. (2002, 2003, 2006), s.v. “Boz” (O 1162). 2. Biblso’s Nw Exusiv Song’s Nubs nd Concodnc wi Exndd Gk-Hbw Diciony, CD-ROM, Biblso, Inc. nd Innionl Bibl nslos, Inc. (1994, 2003, 2006) s.v. “snn,” (O 8150). 3. Oxford Dictionaries, Ail 2010, Oxod Univsiy Pss, s.v. “inculc,” ://oxoddicionis.co/diniion/icn_nglis/inculc (ccssd Sb 20, 2012). 4. Ibid. 5. On o y nos, M.E. Cvn Cvns,s, sn sn d d in 1975. Also, s y book, he Mentoring Mom (Biing, AL: Nw Ho Publiss, 2006), 68. 6. Slly Lloyd-Jons, he Jesus Storybook Bible (Gnd Rids: Zondvn Publiss, 2007), 137. -232-