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Indirect Hypnosis Flash Cards
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• Practice one phrase at a time • Make it fun! Intersperse indirect hypnotic phrases into everyday conversation. • Print your Indirect Hypnosis Flash Cards and have them 3-hole punched so that they can be kept in a binder. Some students have had each card laminated, and you may want to consider doing the same. • Carry your set of indirect hypnosis flash cards with you so that you can review them throughout your day.
Tips for Learning Indirect Hypnosis:
(Clean your room…say “yes” to my proposal…go out with me on a date, etc. You are not wondering if they will want to, only how quickly they will want to. This presupposed they will say yes…the only question is how quickly?)
“I’m wondering how quickly you will want to _________________.”
Pre-Supposing The Positive:
(Lost the desire to smoke…developed an irresistible urge to exercise each day…discovered a wonderful new interest or hobby? It’s not in question if you will make the realization, only how surprised you will be when you make the realization next week. This pre-supposed that you will be surprised, and that you will realize the desired change.)
“How surprised will you be when you realize you have _____ next week?”
Pre-Supposing The Positive:
(The underlined portion of the sentence is the embedded command, delivered with a slightly altered voice tone or voice inflection.)
“A person can, you know, become intensely curious about learning something new.”
Embedded Command:
Pre-Supposing the Positive Combined with an
(Ask them about a favorite hobby or past time, one that they have a natural propensity to become absorbed with for hours. The idea here is to break the habitual, negative pattern and then link the interruption to a positive state. Do this often enough and the interruption and new link become an automatic part of the pattern.)
“LOOK! OVER THERE! (At anything…it doesn’t matter. Then abruptly change the subject, “Oh, never mind, it wasn’t important. By the way…I’ve been meaning to ask you about something…”
Negative Pattern:
Using Surprise to Interrupt a
If you will adjust the rate at which you speak to the rate of your subject’s breathing, this will often induce a powerful rapport (a state of liking and trust). This is especially true if you combine this with other rapport-inducing behaviors, such as mirroring their body posture (sitting like they sit, for example), key hand gestures, key ideas, phrases etc. The more you become “like them” the more they will tend to “like you”. Be subtle. You want to gracefully mirror them, not mimic them.
Mirror Their Breathing Rate:
“Can you remember a time when you found yourself deeply absorbed in thought? When you were so engrossed in your own thoughts that you became temporarily unaware of what was going on around you? Can you think back to a time when this occurred? A specific time? And while you are remembering that time, I’m wondering if you can fully remember exactly what it looked like…and you may be able to recall certain sounds…perhaps voices…and I don’t really know…you may start to become aware…now…of how you felt back then. A person can, you know, become completely absorbed in a pleasant time from your past…that’s right…”
Induce Altered States Naturally:
“…and as you continue to fully experience that time, as if it were happening right now…there’s no need to pay attention to anything except the sound of my voice…that’s right…and you may find the sound of my voice to be very sooooothing…and sometimes a person is surprised to find they can…let yourself just relax completely…that’s right…allowing all of the stress, and all of the tension to just f-l-o-w out of your body…so relaxed…so calm…really enjoying the experience…and wondering…really wondering…how a person can begin to think about how good it feels…to just allow yourself to enjoy the experience…n-o-w…”
Induce Altered States Naturally (Continued):
(It may happen now…or it may happen later. It doesn’t matter when it happens. And when it happens is not in question. It is going to happen…it’s just a matter of when…)
“As you practice and study _____ you may begin to feel more comfortable and confident over the next few week, or it may begin to happen much sooner.”
Time Binds:
Example: the salesperson asks, “Would you like your payments on the 1st of the month or the 15th? (Either way, assuming you are going to move forward with the purchase. What sales trainers call the “assumptive close” which means the sales person does not ask if you are going to make the purchase; they assume you are going to make the purchase.)
Example: the physician asks, “Would you like me to give you the injection in your left arm or your right? (Either way, you are getting the injection.)
Double-binds are also called “the illusion of choice”. You offer two choices (or more) giving the appearance that the person has free choice. But in reality, either choice leads to the result desired (a positive change in thought or behavior, a new insight, compliance with a request, etc.)
Double-Binds:
(Either way pre-supposing, and indirectly suggesting, that you are going for a walk each day.)
“You may discover that taking a brisk walk each morning is a wonderful way to exercise and start your day off right. Or you may actually be surprised to find that a relaxing walk each evening is more to your liking.”
Double-Binds:
(Note there are no specifics in the wording in this example, only generalized instructions. This allows the client or subject to fill in the content that best suits them.)
“I once had a client who was delightfully surprised to learn that she could elicit the types of positive changes she wanted from her husband by rewarding him with her attention…only when he behaved in ways that were pleasing to her.”
Process instructions guide the thoughts of others without offering specific content. They offer generalized suggestions that a person may be more receptive to because the are suggested indirectly, allowing the subject to fill in the content that is meaningful to them.
Process Instructions:
This “seamless blending” of stories has a way of confusing and distracting the subconscious mind so that suggestions can be offered, indirectly, to the unconscious mind.”
Within these tales, intersperse “lessons” learned by other people, at other times. You can have the tales blend into one another. This is a wonderful way to indirectly offer suggestions.
Tell A Series of Long Wandering Tales:
“I had a friend once who loved to read books. She would read novels and find herself deeply absorbed in these stories…sometimes for hours at a time…going inside and forgetting about everything that is around you…and a person can really enjoy doing this…now…if you want to…and how she loved to read about the characters, and the twisting, turning plots…and the surprises that come up from time to time…and a person can easily go inside your own mind now and pay attention to nothing but the sound of my voice…and her best friend had a hobby too…and she could find herself lost in the experience of doing something she loved…paying no attention to what was around her…just relaxing now…and noticing how much a person can really enjoy the experience…
Tell A Series of Long Wandering Tales – Example:
And you might begin to find that people are more receptive to your communications because you are meeting them at their model of the world. Using indirect hypnosis is a way to “speak their language” while offering new choices in a manner that is very enjoyable and non-threatening to others.
Theses cards are sequenced in no particular order. The wonderful thing about indirect communication patterns is there is no “correct” order or “wrong” way to use a specific pattern. By reviewing the cards from time to time, you may begin to notice that you feel comfortable now interspersing some of these patterns in your everyday conversations with those around you.
In No Particular Order
You can do the same by using phrases such as, “Yes, that’s right.” “I understand.” And “Tell me more.” And you may want to use facial expressions and body language to gently encourage them to keep talking, always being very warm and receptive as they tell their story. Simply patiently and calmly listening to his clients was one way Milton Erickson began to build a strong sense of trust.
One of the first things Milton Erickson would do was meet each client at their model of the world. He accepted them just as they presented themselves, with all of their unique, individual traits and complexities. He accepted their problems. He accepted their stories. He listened to their pain and paid attention with deep interest. He did not argue, judge or resist.
Enter Their Model of The World:
The key principle is: “People like people who are like them”. By becoming “like” the other person (subtly mirroring their posture and voice qualities) you unconsciously induce rapport, a sense of trust and liking.
Sit like your client sits. Stand like they stand. If they speak slowly, slow down your rate of speech to match theirs. If they speak fast, pick up your rate of speech to match theirs. If they speak loudly, adjust your voice volume to match theirs. If they speak softly, you speak softly. You get the idea, don’t you?
Enter Their Model of The World:
“I had a client once who told me that when she really wanted something she heard a little voice inside her head that said, ‘always remember that it’s the squeaky wheel that gets oiled’, and she found this to be most useful.”
For example, if a client is somewhat timid and you want to encourage them to be more assertive, you may offer the following metaphor:
Metaphor is a wonderful way to offer suggestions indirectly. Rather than tell a person what they ought to do, you can suggest the idea through metaphor.
Metaphor:
Stories can be entertaining and enlightening. Told by a master storyteller, a story can be a powerfully moving experience. In your life you have probably come across people who tell sorties very dramatically, with great enthusiasm, energy, conviction and emotion. The words they use and the amount of detail they provide has a tendency to capture the imagination of the listener. This can make the story seem very real. Study masterful story tellers, record them in action if you can, and begin developing your own ability to tell persuasive stories in rich, vivid detail. There is a reason why brilliant story tellers are often referred to as “hypnotic”.
Story Telling:
Every suggestion that can be given directly, using traditional hypnotic methods, can also be given indirectly through the use of stories, metaphors, analogies, embedded commands, interspersal, and other forms of indirect suggestion.
The primary reason for using indirect hypnosis versus traditional direct hypnosis is that people ten to be less resistant to indirect methods.
Indirect hypnosis is the art of inducing and utilizing altered states of consciousness in others through the use of indirect suggestion, also known as conversational or covert hypnosis.
What is Indirect Hypnosis?
This question pre-supposes, or assumes in advance, that you will be delighted and feel good about something. It also assumes that you will do this something. Presupposing the positive has a way of creating a context where what is being suggested will occur naturally.
“How delighted will you be when you realize how good you can feel while doing __________?”
Pre-Supposition – Example:
This suggestion assumes in advance that you will think about ________, it’s only a question of when. This sets the unconscious expectation that the listener will think about what is suggested, and provides three options for when the experience will occur.
“It may be later today, perhaps it might be tomorrow, or maybe it will be later this week when you really begin to think about ________________.”
Pre-Supposition With Time Bind – Example:
This suggestion stack three pre-suppositions: 1.) that you do in fact love the person, 2.) that they will be delighted, and 3.) they will realize you do love them. The only thing in question is the degree of the delight they will experience when they realize these things.
“How delighted will you be when you realize how very much I love you?”
Pre-Supposition – Example One:
This suggestion pre-supposes that you will be surprised, you will discover that, and you will be naturally and automatically be drawn towards eating healthy low fat foods. The only thing in question is the degree to which you will be surprised.
“How surprised will you be next week when you suddenly discover that you are naturally and automatically drawn to eating healthy, low fat foods?”
Pre-Supposition – Example Two:
This suggestion assumes in advance that you and the other person are going to do something together on Saturday (go fishing, see a movie, go out to dinner, etc) and that you will have fun doing it. It’s only a question of how much fun you will have!
“How much fun can you and I have when we _____________ this Saturday?”
Pre-Supposition – Example Three:
“Do you want to clean your room before dinner, or would you rather do it right after dinner?”
“Will you choose to stop _____________ because you want to end the pain of this limiting behavior, or will you stop because you are drawn towards living a more positive, healthy live?”
“How delighted will you be when you find yourself ___________________ next Tuesday?”
“I am wondering when you will discover __________________?”
“How quickly will you realize that ___________________?”
Use the following models to create pre-suppositions of your own:
Creating Your Own Pre-Suppositions:
The underlined and italicized portion of the sentence is giving special emphasis either by slightly altering the tone of your voice, making a unique hand or facial gesture, or by touching or gently squeezing the other person’s hand or shoulder when you speak the embedded command. For audio examples of how to do this, please reference the two audio CD set program Disguised Hypnosis by Bill O’Connell.
“How delighted will you be when you take the time necessary to master giving embedded commands?”
Example:
• Take any direct statement or command and encase it within a question, story, or analogy. • Visually, vocally or tactically “mark out: the command portion.
How to create Embedded Commands:
Embedded Commands:
“I’m wondering how delighted you will be when you find yourself ___________.”
“How quickly will you discover that ________________?”
“A person can now begin to ___________.”
Create Your Own Embedded Commands:
“You may discover that your unconscious mind will automatically let you know when your body is full, or you may discover that your unconscious mind will surprise you by naturally reducing your desire for foods high in sugar or fat or your subconscious mind may choose to do both, I really don’t know which of these it will be.”
Embedded Commands – Example One:
“I had a client once who wanted to lose weight. And she struggled, consciously to do so. Only when she decided to let your subconscious mind take over did she begin to make the changes she desired, finding that your subconscious mind NOW can increase your desire to exercise for thirty minutes daily. And it was the most amazing thing that a person could really make that change now without even having to think about it consciously.”
Embedded Commands – Example Two:
“A man once came to me with the desire to lose weight. I listened as he told me his story. When he was finished, I told him, ‘Do not develop now the unconscious and automatic desire to go for long, wonderful one-hour walks every day.”
Embedded Commands – Example Three:
“The unconscious mind is more powerful than the conscious mind, you know. It’s a funny thing how, without even thinking about it consciously, a person can make the positive changes you desire right NOW without any conscious effort whatsoever. And I’m wondering how surprised you will be when you discover that the change is already starting to happen…NOW.”
Embedded Commands – Example Four:
“Quitting smoking is a very hard thing to do – consciously. The key is to ask your unconscious mind to discover a delightful new urge to take the place of the urge to smoke. And a person can, you know, suddenly find yourself with an irresistible urge to do something new, fresh and deliciously healthy. And I’m not sure just what it might be, but your unconscious mind will let you know when the time is right.”
Embedded Commands – Example Five:
“I’m wondering, really wondering, if you will make this change you desire this week or if it will take until next week, or if will actually happen sooner. And it doesn’t really matter as long as the change will occur naturally and be complete.”
Embedded Commands – Example Six:
“I had a client once who told me the most interesting thing. She said, ‘At any moment in your life you can now choose to fill your mind with a new idea you are incredibly excited about’. Then she added, ‘a person can spend hours in delightful anticipation thinking about how you are going to make that idea come true.”
Embedded Commands – Example Seven:
“In thinking through what you really want to achieve in your life, you may now get so excited about your big goal that you feel totally compelled to write down that goal and create a step-by-step action plan for making it come true.”
Embedded Commands – Example Eight:
“A wise woman once shared with me the secret of her success in finding happiness. She told me, ‘Almost anything in life is possible with proper planning.’ And I wouldn’t want you to think about that over and over just yet.”
Embedded Commands – Example Nine:
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