Speed Seduction 3 Disc Ten

Speed Seduction 3.0 Program Transcript:

Disc Ten Created By

Ross Jeffries The “Guru of Getting Some”

Website: http://www.speedseduction.biz

For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying bullying,, begging begging,, buying,, bs buying bs or or booze booze,, in his pursuit of happiness.

Copyright © 2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Reserved. This transcript may not be duplicated without written permission from the author.

Disclaimer This program may contain viewpoints that may be considered controversial by certain audiences. It is intended as a powerful guide for self-respecting, intelligent men who are looking to avoid from "real-hate-shun-ships by default" and instead claim the happiness that they deserve. I, Ross Jeffries, Ghita Services., Inc, and/or SpeedSeduction.biz (or any of our other websites or entities) cannot and will not be held responsible in any way for your actions, and will not be held liable for any and all claims from you or any other third party. You alone are responsible for your decisions and actions, even if they have an impact on others. This information is meant for "entertainment" purposes only. While this transcript contains information, tips, tools, and strategies that are recommended by us and, in most cases, have succeeded when applied by others, this product and its contents carry no warranty or guarantee (either explicit or implied) that the purchaser or reader will achieve success with women, or in any other endeavor for which they may be used.

Disclaimer This program may contain viewpoints that may be considered controversial by certain audiences. It is intended as a powerful guide for self-respecting, intelligent men who are looking to avoid from "real-hate-shun-ships by default" and instead claim the happiness that they deserve. I, Ross Jeffries, Ghita Services., Inc, and/or SpeedSeduction.biz (or any of our other websites or entities) cannot and will not be held responsible in any way for your actions, and will not be held liable for any and all claims from you or any other third party. You alone are responsible for your decisions and actions, even if they have an impact on others. This information is meant for "entertainment" purposes only. While this transcript contains information, tips, tools, and strategies that are recommended by us and, in most cases, have succeeded when applied by others, this product and its contents carry no warranty or guarantee (either explicit or implied) that the purchaser or reader will achieve success with women, or in any other endeavor for which they may be used.

Ross:

The last time I was here, a guy brought his wife. I had her orgasming onstage. My intent was to make her more attractive to him. I said, “Open your eyes, look out and give all of that energy to your husband.” She said, “I don’t see him,” even though he was sitting right there.

One other guy brought his girlfriend. I played with her. They’re now married. They have a baby coming. Ce la vie. Can we have a hand for Shirline? It’s good propaganda to have a woman as a part of the team. It makes me look better. That’s the only reason why you’re here. Piss off.

We’re going into doing sequences. Once I’ve made my introduction, my preference is to go into something that requires their involvement and participation. This is one of the things that I’m screening for.

There are two ways in which you can get a woman to begin to get involved and participate. One is a gun, and the other is a knife. I’m just kidding. I’m taking some swats at Shirline to wake her up. 1. Ask questions. 2. Play a game or quiz.

Generally speaking, once I’ve made my introduction, I’ll either start out by asking a question or playing a game or quiz or combining the two. I don’t start out with a heavy pattern, like Discovery Channel or Blow-Job.

Here is our introduction or opener. Then we have a decision tree. We can go one of two ways. We can ask a question or play a game, quiz or demo. These are our two pathways.

The early model of Speed Seduction was done before many of you even reached puberty. In 1993, you hadn’t even reached puberty, had you? You

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were barely out of children’s clothes. You were 5 years old. You like to rub that in, don’t you? I would like you to rub something in or out.

The early model of Speed Seduction would go right into a heavy pattern. “Do you know what’s interesting? Have you ever felt an incredible connection with someone? It’s that click right in there.” I would start with a heavy thing, like that.

I don’t do that anymore for so many reasons that I can’t even count them. I don’t even want to go into the reasons why I don’t do it, but I don’t do it. This is much more fun, easier and less work. It incorporates her participation more.

First and foremost, the thing I’m screening for is if the woman will playfully participate with me. Fifty percent of this is picking the right person to play with. You can use the word “subject” if you want for the purposes of this discussion. I want to find out in the first three to five minutes if there is any chance energetically that she and I are going to connect and enjoy each other.

I gave you the metaphor of shaking you with laughter by presenting you with the most unlikely example of success.

I love you, James. You’re great. You’re going to give me that testimonial, right?

James:

Yes.

Ross:

Can you imagine if you tuned into the internet and saw this guy saying, “Hi, I’m James,” telling the story of how he got a super-hot lesbian to show him her dripping-wet knickers then took her home, duct-taped her to the

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bed and banged her silly? Then he could give out my website address. That might get some traffic, don’t you think? That’s quite a convincer.

James:

Get you on the

Forbes list.

Ross:

I don’t know. Never mind.

I want to ask a question or offer a game or quiz. I want to see if she’s going to participate. I don’t mean this in any kind of violent, mean, intrusive or violating sense, but it’s like I’m connecting with her energetic field and shaking it a little bit. Then I’m letting go because I want to hear if it is resonating in response to my shaking or cracking under stress.

It’s almost like I’m striking a gong. I want to hear if there is resonance to the energy I’m presenting. I’m pinging it or shaking it a little bit, not in any kind of intrusive or violating way. I’m stirring up the molecules of who she is then stepping back to hear how those molecules sing. Are the molecules singing back to me, groaning or complaining?

That will tell me everything I really need to know. It’s going to tell me if she’s going to participate with me. It’s going to tell me if she’s primarily someone who I need to talk to about abstract concepts with or if I need to bring it down to earth to get her own experience.

That initial moment of encountering her and seeing how she responds to my energetic shaking will tell me a lot. I’m not using a precise term. Surely you have an idea of what I mean. It’s not agitating. It’s dancing.

I’m going to offer a game, quiz or demo or ask a question. What would be an example of a game or quiz? Twin Brothers. Did I not tell you about the


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Twin Brothers scenario? You know that one. It’s on my “Gold Walk Up” DVD.

I could offer my snack quiz. Do you remember my snack quiz? “Let’s see if we’re snack compatible. It’s very important. Anyone who I’m going to hang out with has to be snack compatible with me.” The presupposition of that is that we’re going to be hanging out. I say, “Are you ready? Answer honestly.”

I don’t know what it is, and I don’t know how it applies in Britain, but at least in the United States, and I suspect in the Western World, women like to read these magazines where they have quizzes.

“Is your husband a really good lover? Take this boyfriend really good in bed? Take the

Cosmo quiz.”

Cosmo quiz.”

“Is your

“Are your lardy fat

ass and thighs getting so big that your boyfriend is cheating on you? Take the quiz.” There’s just something about quizzes that women love.

The snack quiz goes like this. I’ll say, “Let’s see if we’re snack compatible. Here we go. Answer honestly. Ready? The first choice is Ritz crackers or little goldfish snacks.” Do you guys know what Ritz crackers are? Do you get them here?

Participant:

No.

Ross:

Do you get Pringles here?

Participant:

Yes.

Ross:

You can say, “Pringles or pretzels?” No matter what answer she gives you, make a buzzer noise and say, “Oh, god. Well, it’s two out of three.”


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Her first answer is always going to be incorrect. It’s not in the sense of punishing her or anything. It’s just being playful. It’s like you’re saying, “Oh, damn. Shucks.”

You can say, “Do you eat them all in one gulp, or do you eat them one little bite at a time? Are you the kind of person who has no self-control, or can you eat just one?” No matter what her answer is, you say, “Right, you got that one. Do you have to eat the whole thing, or can you eat just one?”

You can even go into a little bit of the Blow-Job Pattern. You can say, “I have this friend who loves Jaffa cakes, but she doesn’t eat them right away. She thinks about them all day long. There comes that moment when she’s ready. Do you know that moment when you’re ready to indulge yourself?

“She undresses that Jaffa cake and holds it against her tongue. She says it’s like an explosion of pleasure in her mouth.” You’re kind of doing it tongue-in-cheek to see how she responds.

Then you do the final one. In the states, I say, “This is a trick question, so listen carefully.” Do you get Reese cups here? They’re peanut butter cups. Do you get chocolate-covered peanut butter cups here?

Participant:

No.

Ross:

You don’t have chocolate-covered peanut cups here? You fucking primitives! I say, “Reese cups or s’mores?” Do you have s’mores here?

Participant:

No.


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Ross:

You fucking primitive animals! You don’t have s’mores! You take a graham cracker coated with chocolate. Then you take marshmallows and melt them in between. It’s like a chocolate and marshmallow sandwich.

There’s a kind that’s premade, but there’s a kind that you actually make. You melt the chocolate in a saucepan. You toast the marshmallows and melt them. Then you pour the chocolate over the graham crackers and take the melted marshmallow. You have a little sandwich. It’s super sugary sweet.

I’m going to open a homemade s’mores stand and make a fortune here in Hammersmith. What would be the equivalent?

Participant:

Wagon wheel.

Ross:

What’s a wagon wheel? Is that kind of slang for a woman who’s had 15 children? “I had some wagon wheel last night.” Nudge, nudge, wink, wink. Say no more!

I would say, “Reese cups or s’mores?” Whatever she says is the right answer. I’d say, “See? We’re snack compatible.” It’s a cute little game.

There are other schools of pickup that teach little games, like this, but there is a difference here. What is the topic that we’re already starting in on within the first three minutes? What is the theme here?

Participant:

Indulgence.

Ross:

That’s right. We already have her talking about indulgence.


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Do you want to know how I came up with the snack quiz? I swear this is true. I was in a car wash in Venice. There were two girls. One girl was eating a snack, and the other girl was eating some other kind of snack. They didn’t know each other.

One girl said, “What are you having?” She said, “Oh, I’m having this.” “I quite like these, but those are even better.” They started talking about all of the snacks they like to eat. Then they were talking about the snacks they like to eat before they go to sleep in bed. I swear, I almost heard the obligatory porno music in my mind. I thought, “Here comes the obligatory gratuitous lesbian scene at the car wash.”

Then I thought, “This is really good. This is what women talk about amongst themselves.” They were sort of salivating, talking about their various treats. It involves oral pleasure, doesn’t it? Run with it. Early on, within the first three minutes, we’re very subtly introducing a very interesting theme, which is indulgence.

There is another game I quite like that works really well with waitresses and bartenders. It’s not mine. I give full credit to Neil Strauss. He came up with it, but it’s really good. It never fails to create a playful atmosphere. It’s fantastic. It’s called the Five-Questions Game.

This is the way the game works. I’m going to ask you five questions. You have to get them all wrong. If you get them all wrong, you win, and I’ll give you £20. If you get even one of them right, you lose, and I get to punch you in the arm. Fair enough? I’m not making any promises. That’s the game. Are you ready? You have to get them all wrong. Here we go.

What’s your name?


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Participant:

Ross:

What city are we in?

Participant:

Ross:

What planet are we on?

Participant:

Ross:

How many was that?

Participant:

Three.

Ross:

Shut up, guys!

You’ve played this before?

Participant:

Yes.

Ross:

You’ve really played it before?

Participant:

Yes.

Ross:

But you answered right, so you lose. Hold out the arm. No, I’m not going to hit you. Yes, I will.

That’s the game. It’s just a cute little fun game. There is no serious intent. It creates a fun little thing. It’s you and her having a nice little time. I’ve used it. I give full credit to Neil. It’s not mine.


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Participant:

I have one special, funny fourth question. I say, “Am I the greatest, bestlooking guy in the world?” She says no. I say, “Thank you.”

Ross:

That’s good.

It’s just a fun little game. Remember my Twin Brothers thing? You can play that. It’s like my little non sequitur. “Are you a roller, a folded or a thrower?” They always get talking.

I say, “We’re going on vacation. Would you roll your clothes, fold them or throw them?” She answers, and you say, “We’re not compatible, but just for fun, I heard this question at a party. ‘If you could go somewhere where money and time were no object, where would you go, and what would you enjoy the most?’”

As soon as she starts answering, you say, “Wait a minute. Take me along with you. We’re there at the Alps.” You can go right to that. You can play a little game like that.

If you’re at a club, pub, party or place where there are a lot of people gathered together, what game could you play? Do you know what game I like to play in a place like this? Who’s Not Getting Any? I like to look around the room and say, “Who’s gone at least a year without getting any? Let’s play. What about that guy over there?”

Women are mean as hell. They love this game. They all want to play. I say, “What about that girl?” “No, she’s not had any.” I play this little game with them.


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Once I’ve played this little game, and we’re having fun together, where could I go from there? Shirline gave me a good one. She’s a wicked natural speed seducer.

She said, “You do this stuff then tell the girl, ‘Do you know what’s interesting in a place like this? Most of the time, you talk to someone and the conversation doesn’t go anywhere. Every once in a while, there’s a really strong connection. What would that look like?’”

Do you get it? You’re putting your head on the platter and showing your face. Do you see where this could go? You could play that little game with her.

Here’s something else I do. This is really interesting. Let’s say I don’t want to go the game route. I could play a little game with her. Then I could ask a seduction question, which I’m going to get to. I could go straight to the seduction question.

Here is a general rule. Before I ask a seduction question, I ask a stupid question. Then I pull it back. I have found, in my experience, that it just works better if I start to talk like a normal, stupid guy then stop myself and go in the right direction.

I remember doing this in a place called James’ Beach in Venice. There were three girls and a guy sitting at the bar having dinner. I walked in, sat down and said, “Bartender, I’m buying drinks for all of these people. They can have water or ice water.” That’s how I opened up.

I said, “How do you guys all know each other?” They told me. I said, “You, we’re going to play the Five-Questions Game.” I played the Five-Question Game with her, and all her friends were laughing. They said, “Who the hell Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Ten Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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are you?” I said, “I’m so-and-so, blah, blah, blah.” I came in really funny, just like that.

I talked casually, just for a few minutes then turned to one of them and said, “So, what do you do for a…” and stopped myself. “Never mind that. When you really want to cut loose, indulge yourself and escape, what do you love to do? What would you like to do but haven’t yet found someone to try it with? What is something you’d really like to do but haven’t let yourself try?”

She went off on this huge thing about scuba diving and the Indian Ocean. She had this thing. She had been there once and went crazy telling me about it. She said it was the most beautiful experience of her life. I said, “Wait a minute. I’m a little slow. You’ll have to take me along with you for me to get it.”

We had this 20-minute scuba-diving expedition. We were going down in the water. I said, “When we go down together, are we going down slowly, or are we going down fast?” She said, “We’re going down slowly. We’re enjoying going down together.” Really!

We swam to this secret cove and saw all of these beautiful fish. As we were ascending together, we were feeling more and more joyous. We came to the surface and looked into each other’s eyes. We were so happy to be there.

We leant in and started kissing each other in front of her friends. Her friends were stammering. I stopped and said, “Oh, we’re just being friendly.”


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That’s pretty damn good, isn’t it? That was about 45 minutes. We were talking back and forth. I started by asking the wrong question. I said, “What do you do…” then I stopped. The average guy says, “What do you do for a living?” Isn’t that a typical question? I don’t want to be typical.

I start to ask the typical question then I fractionate between her expectation of the stupid-guy question with the real seduction question. For some reason, it just makes it more acceptable.

What energy did I come in with? I walked in and said, “Bartender, I’m buying drinks for everyone. They can have water or ice water.” It was part of a put-on and part being very dominant. It was very dominant energy, but it was playful. I came in and took control but I did it playfully. It wasn’t like I was saying, “I’m the big cock of the walk here. Who are you people?” It was playful. It was funny.

Participant:

You asked her to take you on the trip. What if you have your own story?

Ross:

We were having a discussion Friday night, and you told me a beautiful story. You were swimming with whales in Tonga and saw this mother humpback whale. The thing that impressed you was how gentle she was. She was very big and powerful. She had a calf with her. She could have flicked you into nothingness, but she didn’t.

I said, “Dude, stop. That’s an incredible language pattern. All you have to do is describe it with a little more sensory richness, and that’s a beautiful pattern.” You were telling the truth. You weren’t making that story up. I said, “That’s incredible. That would get any woman going strongly.” It really happened to you.


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What if you have your own experience like that? Do you start with it? If you have a really good experience of something you do that helps you to escape, don’t start with it. You want her talking and involved. Then, if your experience somehow will embellish or match her own, tell your experience. That’s perfectly fine.

If you tell your experience, make sure you include sensory-rich detail. You don’t say, “We jumped in the water, and the whales were big.”

Participant:

When you invite yourself on her journey, and it comes time to tell your journey, do you invite her along with you?

Ross:

No, I wouldn’t do it that way because it’s really gilding the lily. You’ve already gone along with her. You can just tell your story.

If you want to be a little sneaky, you can incorporate some of the words she used to describe hers as long as it’s within the bounds of truth and accurately describes what really happened with you.

If she’s describing her skiing, and she keeps talking about “buzz” and “thrill,” if it’s part of the truth of your story that you were experiencing something like that, but rather than calling it “buzz” you would call it “high,” it’s perfectly okay to use her words in your story. If it reflects the truth of your own experience, that’s perfectly okay.

That message will go in just a little bit more deeply into her experience, provided you’re not making it up. If you’re making it up, and throwing in her words, that’s leaning into the darker side of the force.

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provided it’s an honest match. In that case, it’s like you’re just translating from French into German. You’re still speaking the same truth. It will just slide in better. You fucking nasty fuckers! I didn’t mean it that way.

Often, when you’re dealing with the right kind of girl who is highly imaginative, sexually adventurous and comfortable with men and sex, just doing that is quite enough. You don’t need to go any further. Just give sensory-rich descriptions or let her describe her experience and join along with it.

I used to say that when she starts getting really excited to anchor it. Some people I used to work with teach that. Let’s say she’s talking about the story. You would say, “What is your favorite part of it,” which isn’t bad. I’ll say, “What is your favorite part of the dive?”

Instead of watching for her to get really excited then anchoring it, I don’t need to do that because I’m along on the experience with her. I’ll say, “Then what do we do?” Because I’m in the experience with her, those feelings are already linked in to me.

Notice that it’s voluntary. She could always say, “No, you’re not going on the trip with me.” Because she’s participating and taking me along on the journey with her, it’s a voluntary process. At any point in this process, she could say, “No, we’re going too far.”

The fact is that she’s taking me along. Every moment, I say, “Tell me what happens then,” in effect, she’s giving consent. Every time I say, “What does the water feel like?” by going along with it, she’s giving her consent to it. She’s participating. It’s not something I’m inflicting on her.


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You don’t need to sit there and anchor yourself because she’s participating. It’s much less work, too. You don’t have to sit there and think, “Anchor, anchor, anchor.” You can actually enjoy her story.

Do you want to know my kryptonite among women that shuts down all my skills? It’s not big tits or a hot ass. If a woman tells me a fascinating story and can regale me, I get like a 5-year-old and get sucked into her story. I forget to do anything if a woman can tell me a good story and keep me utterly fascinated.

This chick, Lily, the 25-year old, kept regaling me with tales of her adventures working for this soldier of fortune consulting company. I said, “Really? What happened then?” “Well, I was sitting with the prime minister, the former head of Pakistan’s intelligence service, sipping tea…”

She told me how she was jumping out of a plane with a fake rifle at 300 feet. I said, “Really?” “And the French paratroopers came.” I said, “Really?” She was sarging me! A good story gets me every time.

In the process, it’s perfectly okay to inject sexual metaphor. This is my formula. She’s telling me the story. What in the story matches something sexual? I said, “We’re going down in the water. As we go down together, are we going down slow, or are we going down fast?” That’s a sexual metaphor. That’s fine. I have no problem with it.

Let’s list them. It’s easy. When you think of sex, what are some of the terms that pop into mind?

Participant:

Tits.


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Ross:

That’s not metaphorical. What are some of the terms we use to refer to sex?

Participant:

Slowly. Deep. In and out.

Participant:

Cum fast.

Ross:

Back and forth. Penetrate. Opening. Did you hear me say, “It’s almost like you can feel you’re opening for something different”? Am I saying, “Do you feel you’re opening your mind?” or is she feeling her opening? When I say that, I’m imagining the woman masturbating. “You can feel you’re opening to something that’s really exciting.” It’s acute ambiguity.

This is where the little tools come in, the smaller pieces. This is sexual metaphor. It also accelerates the pace of the feeling. I say, “You feel your opening.” It’s phonetic ambiguity. “You feel you are opening.”

Am I saying, “You feel that you are engaging in the act of opening in some way,” or am I saying, “You feel your opening”? In this sense, “feel” means you’re touching yourself. “Your” means the possessive form of the word.

“You feel you’re opening.” In this case, “opening” is a verb. It’s actually a gerund. The “ing” form of the verb is called a gerund, correct? I’m the only cunning linguist here. It’s a bad joke. I know. You get the sense that you are engaging in the activity of opening.

“You feel your opening.” “Feel” is the verb. You’re touching. What are you touching? You’re touching your opening, your vagina. Isn’t that great? When I say it, I’m picturing her masturbating.


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You can say, “You feel you’re opening to a magnificent new direction you didn’t know you wanted to take inside.” Does that mean you didn’t know inside that you wanted to take it or that you didn’t know you wanted to take the direction inside of yourself? Get it?

This is done in the context of consensually going on a fantasy journey with you. The whole point is that she’s taking you by the hand on this journey with her.

It’s in the context of being consensual. Every few moments, you’re saying, “Take me with you. What is the water like?” Each step of the way, she’s consensually going on this journey with you.

“Con - sensually” is an interesting ambiguity, isn’t it? Am I saying “consensually” or “con sensually”? Did you hear it? “Con sensually” is a made-up word, but it means “together through sensuality.” That’s another ambiguity.

Participant:

Are you saying “cun sensually”?

Ross:

No, I’m not saying “cun - sensually,” but you could. It can have whatever meaning you can concoct inside of yourself.

Participant:

Do women try to correct you when you say “blow me”?

Ross:

Never. You must understand this. They don’t correct me because I’m not inflicting anything. They’re enjoying the journey. Properly presented with the right kind of person, seduction is something that women enjoy. They want it to happen. Why would they fuck up their own good time by saying, “Nah, nah, nah”?


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If I were inflicting it on her, rather than sharing along with her, she might. She might do that if she just didn’t like me and didn’t want to have anything to do with it or if I were doing it in a way that wasn’t pleasant. Because I’m doing it in a way that’s pleasant, and she’s going along with it, why would she fuck up her good time?

If she enjoys a rollercoaster, and I have her on the best rollercoaster in the world, why would she suddenly try to make herself sick? It doesn’t make any sense. Stop worrying about that.

We have her on this journey. “It’s almost like you can feel you’re opening to a new direction. You want inside.” Is the ambiguity “new direction” or “nude direction”? Also there’s an ambiguity about “inside.” Does that mean she wants inside herself? Does she realize that she wants a new direction? Does she want a new direction inside?

I don’t want you to miss this point. What’s really driving this is not the language. It’s my vibe and attitude. I’m showing her that it’s okay to go there. If you do this to the vibe of “Ha-ha, look what I’m doing to her,” it’s not going to work. The language only works because the conductive medium is the vibe that I’m creating with her. It works pretty fucking good, doesn’t it?

We go through this journey together. Then I’ll change the subject. Remember, I fractionate. I don’t keep building this heavy thing. That’s another reason why I wouldn’t immediately share my own experience because it’s too heavy. I’m going to fractionate.

What are some ways to fractionate? Once you’ve done a pattern like this, would you like three specific ways to fractionate, any of which will work?


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Participant:

Yes.

Ross:

You can fractionate the direction of attention. Your direction of attention has been toward each other. You can vector the attention outward. You can suddenly pay attention to other people in the environment, to the food or to her friends. You can fractionate by temporarily changing the direction of attention from inward between the two of you to outward.

I’m not trying to knock down the door with a sledgehammer. What I’m doing is making my side of the room so enticing that she wants to open that door and leave it open.

That is the old model of Speed Seduction. I used to do that before 1997. I created all of these good feelings and kept building on them. Let me try to be really accurate because I don’t want to mislead. If you keep piling it on, with some women, it can work. There are challenges on many levels.

I could go directly into it and say, “It’s just like when you take a bit of chocolate in your mouth.” I could keep piling it on. The problem with piling it on is that, first, it presumes that I’m not picking the right person to play with. With the right person, I don’t need to pile it on. That will be enough.

Second, piling it on isn’t always an infliction because there are some women who want it piled on. They want that sense of being totally overpowered and overwhelmed. They want to feel like they have nothing to do with it. You’re doing it to them. There are women like that.

In my experience, women like that tend to have a pretty loose grip on reality. Whatever is presented to them is their reality in that moment. They accept that as a reality. The problem is that they have that response to


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everything in their life. If something comes up that is really painful, that will become all of her reality.

People like that tend to have very badly defined boundaries. They really don’t know who they are and who you are. You’re blurring the boundary in order to seduce them. It’s not healthy for you.

Nietzsche said, “Don’t look into the abyss too long because when you look into the abyss, the abyss stares back at you.” The abyss is a big, gaping hole that goes on forever.

The problem with the kind of people who respond to this is, in order to pay attention to them in a way that they’ll respond to, you have to start taking on some of their ways. You may be influencing them, but they’re also influencing you with their bad boundaries and nuttiness.

Did you ever sleep with a girl and feel confused or dazed for a few days or weeks afterward? I’m not being funny. I don’t mean thinking, “Why did I fuck her? She was awful.” That’s her confusion sticking to you. It can happen. I don’t want to make you paranoid. When you sleep with people, you get their energy on you. Be careful where you stick it.

You won’t believe me, but I swear to God this is true. The last three women I had in my bed, I did not penetrate because they didn’t come to me with the kind of energy that I felt I wanted to put myself into.

That’s not to say I didn’t have fun. I had fun, but I’m not going to put myself into someone who’s not coming to me with pretty good energy. They wanted me, but they wanted me for the wrong reasons. They wanted me because they saw me as some kind of super successful person. They


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thought, “Wow, you have the answers to all of my problems!” I didn’t want to have any of that.

The problem with piling it on is also that it’s just a lot of work. I don’t get to have any fun with the other person, so I don’t pile it on. You could go to other patterns. I don’t.

What I want to do is fractionate. You can fractionate the direction of your attention. Since your attention is on each other, you can turn your attention outward to the environment, some other person or the drinks.

Remember, I said that fractionation is part of the machine language of the female psyche. There are many different ways you can fractionate. Fractionate the vector of your attention, where it’s directed.

Participant:

When you fractionate, how much time should there be?

Ross:

That’s a German question. You want the exact minutes? I’m serious. It’s a good question, but what are you really asking? I’m calibrating to the person. It depends.

If there is something outward that could be useful for us to draw closer together, I’ll stick with going out there. Let’s say that what we see is a couple in the corner making out like crazy. It’s a really horny, heavy makeout. I might what to spend some time having a look at that.

It depends on what’s going on. I can’t give you a formula. It’s a felt sense. I feel my way through it.

Participant:

I read in a book that women are always thinking of a few things at a time.


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Ross:

Every human is constantly multitasking. Beneath the surface of your conscious awareness, you’re having a million thoughts going on in parallel.

Participant:

It said that women are more capable of this than men. Men can only focus on one thing.

Ross:

That may be true. I don’t know. I just know that this works. You can fractionate the focus of your attention outward. You can fractionate the vibe you’re coming from.

Don’t get too confused. Get clear. Fundamentally, there are four vibes that attract women. I’m going to do a loop. The overall loop we’re talking about now is fractionating as part of the overall sequence of how you conduct a successful sarge. I’m tracking it. I’m not losing it. It’s a loop within a loop within a loop.

You can fractionate back and forth among the various different vibes that attract women. There’s not any order. It’s not like Vibe 1, Vibe 2 and Vibe 5.

The first vibe I’ll talk about is being dominant and strong and being a leader. You’re being captain of the football team or the president of the school class. There’s a key distinction. Dominant is not domineering. Authority is not authoritarian.

What is the distinction between dominant and domineering? If you take dominant and slide inside of it arrogance and having no concern for other people, it turns into domineering. If you take dominant and slide inside of it hostility and abusive behavior, then it turns into domineering.


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Subtract it out, and it’s just being dominant. “Dominant” simply means you will set the direction for things, and you’re in the lead. Do you understand that distinction?

Many of you have had abusive fathers or abusive male figures in your life. I know that’s the case. For many of you, when you make the distinction between domineering and dominant, it will allow you to understand that we’re not talking about the way those people acted. They were never dominant. They were domineering.

Here’s the basic belief behind being dominant. I rehearse this. I do the Magickal Self-Ritual. Once a week, I rehearse my vibes. The basic belief is, “I’m not your girlfriend with a penis. At some point, I could fuck you. I’m also going to make sure you’re safe every step of the way.” Do I say that? No, but that’s what’s conveyed.

Shirline was so cute. When she was getting married and picking out all of her wedding stuff, she didn’t have any girls to talk to. She said, “Paul, you have to look at the plan for the china.” I said, “Shirline, I love you. You’re my best friend. I’m not your girlfriend with a penis. I’m a guy. I have no interest in any of this. Find a girl to talk to.”

She said, “But please, will you just look at the pattern?” “No, I won’t. I’ll come to your wedding, but I’m not going to look at your china pattern. I have a penis.” Am I lying? I said that.

“I’m not your girlfriend with a penis. At some point, I could fuck you.” Notice what I’m saying. I'm not saying, “I want to fuck you,” or, “I’m going to fuck you.” I’m saying, “At some point, I could fuck you,” which implies that she has to earn it at some level. “At some point, I could fuck you, and


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I’ll also going to make sure you’re safe.” That’s dominant. That’s very attractive.

What is another vibe? Being playful and fun. This is a key distinction. What do the alpha male imitators teach you? “You need a really exciting life. You should go skydiving and pet a tiger. Tell her tales so she’ll be envious of your exciting life.”

There is nothing wrong with that. That could be fun. I encourage you all to stretch your horizons and try new things you’ve never tried before. I think that’s wonderful. It adds juice to life. Do it. But that’s not what I mean by this.

I mean that you have a happiness independent of external circumstances. You have a way of finding joy in your life that’s not dependent on external events going your way or on other people approving of you. That’s much more subtly attractive.

Having a fun, exciting, adventurous life is great. I’m all for it. But that’s not what I mean. I mean you have a joy that’s independent of external circumstances or validation. This is deeply attractive to all people, men and women.

“Will you validate me externally and tell me I’m right, Shirline?” No. I know the contradiction. I see what I’m doing. It’s a happiness and joy that is independent. Where do you get it? Through a spiritual or meditation practice. You can’t always get there though. It’s an ideal.

The third vibe is demonstrating authority in her world. Demonstrate understanding. This is deeply attractive. It implies that you also show deep


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curiosity about her world. The parallel holding hands with this is having deep curiosity.

If you’re ever stuck on where to go with your seduction, get really curious. Part of demonstrating understanding is also the capacity to be deeply curious. Part of what makes me interesting is that I’m deeply interested in other people.

In order to be deeply curious, you have to be quiet in your mind and know what to set aside temporarily. Get deeply curious and demonstrate that you understand her world. I demonstrated some of that with this lady by showing I understood what her world felt like.

The final vibe is being vulnerable/authentic. This is not to say that these are not authentic. I don’t mean you cry at movies, are graspy or needy, tell her 10 times a day how much you love her or tell her that she’s a ray of sunshine from the butthole of heaven.

I mean you speak your truth. If she pissed you off, you tell her. That’s just one example. The basic belief behind this is that speaking my truth is more important to me than getting into your pants.

I told you this Friday night. At first, it’s going to be something you’re playing with, but when it gets to be the truth, that’s really powerful. Speaking my truth is more important to me than getting into your pants. That’s the ultimate challenge for women. It’s basically being honest in a way that may risk offending her.

You can fractionate locations. You can move her to a new location. “Let’s go next door.” You can walk to a different part of the location you’re in.


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Participant:

How do you demonstrate authority?

Ross:

You can demonstrate authority by the nature of the questions you ask, by showing that you understand and by pacing. What did I do with her? I said, “I bet your job is very important to your family. They’re very proud of you, and that matters to you, doesn’t it?”

You can fractionate the level of intensity of the interaction.

Participant:

What about questions like, “How old are you?”

Ross:

You could go back to a little bit of junk or fluff talk.

Participant:

Then you come back to this. Keep the control.

Ross:

That’s a loaded word, but yes. Let’s say that you have to control the direction. It’s about direction control. If your direction gets out of control, there could be a problem.

You can fractionate the intensity with which you communicate. You can go back to a chump topic briefly if you want to. “Where do you live? Where did you go to school?”

You can also fractionate by turning and talking to someone else. You can talk to one of her friends. That also counts as fractionating the focus of your attention. You could involve a friend in the conversation with the two of you.

These are things that I can’t give you a strict formula for. I can give you options to play amongst. It’s done by feel. I’m showing you an overall pathway. Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Ten Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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What is the next good thing you could go to? We’ve gone from the opening to doing some little fun quizzes to launching into something, either by asking a question or playing a game. Now we want to run a second round of this stuff. What could we do?

It’s pretty easy. We could pick something that involves a different topic or theme, or we can continue on the same theme in a different way. Those are our two choices. We could continue along with the same topic just with a different example, or we could do something from a different category of topics or themes.

Our next decision tree is flowing to a different topic or the same topic but different example or angle. If the first thing has been about connections, and we want to go on with the same topic but a different example, we just start talking about how we connect with other people.

In this example, we started off with an adventure, escape or indulgence. We could continue along with that same topic but use a different example. From there, we could go into the Blow-Job Pattern. We could say, “I was watching this show talking about the difference between compulsion and anticipation.” We could go to any other thing that deals with escape, adventure or indulgence.

You’d better be damn well certain that I’m going to incorporate all of her responses again. Remember, I’m not just going to drop all of the juicy sauce she gave me the first time around. I’m not going to drop any of that stuff if she gives me a self-anchor.


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How many people think I’m going to let it go and start from the beginning again? How many people think I’m going to fucking incorporate it in the next round? Look up here.

Let’s say that in the course of doing that first one she talked about “buzz,” “energy” and “excitement.” Do you think I’m going to not incorporation that in the next round of patterns? You’d better believe I am.

Let’s say the first thing I did was Twin Brothers. Now I have a bunch of anchors stacked on my thumb. Do you think I’m going to ignore that with the next thing I do, or am I going to think, “Hmm, here’s something interesting to talk about”?

That’s an example of something I return to periodically. Remember, when you return to things periodically, there’s mastery in it. You’d better believe that any good responses I get from the first round, I’ll bring them along. I’ll keep rolling that snowball down the hill in the direction it’s already going in, adding mass to it until it becomes an avalanche.

One of the things I’m doing when I pop out of the first pattern is giving the safe door a tug. When I do that first round of patterning and pop her out to fractionate her briefly into something else, I’m giving the safe door a tug.

What does that mean? I could lean in closer. I could look at her lips. I could touch her. I want to give the safe door a tug in between patterns. That could mean looking at her lips a little too long.

You could look in her eyes just a little bit too long. You could look in her eyes like you’re already lovers. You could touch her and hold the touch a little bit longer. If I look at her lips, and she looks back at mine, I may lean in for a kiss Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Ten Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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When I fractionate between patterns, that’s when I give the safe door a tug. How do I give the safe door a tug? I could look in her eyes and hold her gaze too long, more than a stranger would. I could look at her lips. I could touch her in a certain way. Maybe that’s when I throw in a little innuendo.

You have to give that safe door a tug in that moment of fractionating outside of the pattern. Does that make sense? Now it’s coming together, isn’t it?

I could go to the same topic but a different example or angle. I could go to a different topic. We have six different things to pull from.

Generally speaking, I like to change it up. If I’ve done something regarding connections, then I want to go to indulgence and escape. If I’ve started with indulgence and escape, I want to go to connections or a demo, joke or story.

They’re going to incorporate the things that were in the first round. With speed seduction, we do a first round to get some strong responses. We fractionate. We test the safe door. Then we go back into the second round and bring forward into the second round all of those juicy, saucy responses, verbal and nonverbal, that we got on the first one.

You can say, “Here’s something interesting.” Maybe you’ve anchored all of her best feelings to the glass of water. You take a sip and say, “You know…” Now we’re going to incorporate everything into this next round.


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The next round could be anything you want. You could tell them the Dream Story. “My friend had this incredible dream. Let me tell you about it.”

Let me speak with full rigor. Let’s say you’re doing the Dream Story, and she gives you the eye scan. The eye scan is when she looks back and forth, scanning your eyes. She looks at this eye and that eye. She looks at your lips.

If she’s giving you that eye scan, leaning into you and all over you, or she pulls her panties aside to show you, while you’re doing the pattern, you don’t have to stop, fractionate and tug the safe door. If you hear the tumblers whirring, and it’s swinging open, give the door a tug. Don’t formally stop. These are just suggestions.

Formally speaking, you test the safe door when you fractionate between patterns. If you see strong responses, like looking in your eyes, holding your gaze, looking back and forth between your eyes, looking at your lips, leaning into you or breathing heavily so you feel the heat coming off of her body, and sometimes you literally smell lubrication, give the safe door a tug.

Don’t think, “Ross said you have to wait.” These are ideas. James didn’t have to fractionate. She pulled her panties and showed him the drippingwet vagina.

James:

Stop and enjoy.

Ross:

That’s the time to stop and enjoy the saucy roses.


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We’ve been together since Friday night. We’re learning a lot. Calm down. Savor the last moments we have. This will pass and will be a memory. Let’s savor it. Let’s go slow. Slow down. I know you’re eager little chicks. You want the momma to throw up in your throat and give you worms, but let’s slow down.

Do you know what’s really good, Jonathan? This is an opportunity for men to join together, support each other and learn something important together.

Who here had a father who taught them all about this? Who had a dad who took them aside, hung out with them and explained about women who really knew what he was talking about and showed them how to get on with ladies? Does that tell you something? We are men whose fathers did not teach us this.

I love my father dearly. He busted his ass supporting six kids plus my cousin, Paula, who lived with us for six or seven years. He had seven mouths to feed in addition to himself. He had to work three jobs five days a week. Then he worked two jobs on the weekends to feed his family.

My father was far from being a carouser or a drunk. He never abused us or any of that. He didn’t beat us. But my father couldn’t be around for me as a teacher because he was busy earning a living so we could survive.

I love my father dearly. He’s still with us. He’s a horny old man who tries to make out with every girl I introduce him to. That’s just him. He said, “I don’t know. I tried this stuff and got my face slapped.” My father was not there for me in this way. He couldn’t be. I don’t think he had a clue anyway.


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This is something that we really need. Overall, we’re men who really didn’t have fathers and didn’t have teachers. We’re a fatherless, teacherless society when it comes to this subject.

This is a place where men can join together, not come together. I was going to say that. We can learn about something that is powerfully important and support each other in that. I think there are some friendships that have been made here, yes?

Participant:

Yes.

Ross:

This is really good. How many ways can men have camaraderie and brotherhood? Not a lot of ways. I’m very happy to be supporting and facilitating that. It’s one of the side benefits. In addition to teaching the technology and doing the lovely change work, men are joining together in friendship.

Now we launch into the second round. It could be anything. Challenge me. Pick a category of topics for me.

Participant:

Fascination.

Ross:

Fascination would be an overall example of what? What kind of theme does it fit under? It’s a subcategory of connection because you’re only fascinated with things that you connect to, right?

Participant:

Yes.

Ross:

I can say, “What also interests me is how we connect with the things that really, truly grab our interests. In a place like this, you meet people. There’s not really much.


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