Attract Women: Gun to the Head Gaming Hola Numbnuts… Imagine this: You are sitting on your couch eating Bon-Bons with your eyes laser locked on Oprah when you hear a crack, the door flies open and 3 goons rush towards you. You hurl your bon-bons at the goons but it doesn ’t even faze them. Next thing you know there is a gun pointed at your temple and one of them says, “ Is this the guy?” The other looks at a photograph and says, “He’s not wearing the feather boa, jade necklace and high heels like in his MySpace profile but yeah, I ’d say it is him. ” One of them says, “Look, Mr. Pua guy, you go out tonight and have sex with a girl or we’re going to shoot you in the face. ” Gun to the head. Shot in the face. Do you go out and do the th e same thing you always do? Do you do a few laps around the bar, have a few drinks, hover a few times, look for the perfect opening? Not unless you enjoy face shootings. What WOULD you do differently? Here’s what I’d do… 1. Dress like like almost everyone else but a tad better. better. 2. Get to the bar early. I want to get there about 10-15 minutes before the crowd does. I want to chat with the bartender a minute, chat with a waitress or two for a minute before they get ridiculously busy. Get the ol ’ mouth movin’ a bit. 3. Approach as soon as possible. Even E ven if it is “How’s it going?” 4. Watch the girls who have wandering eyes. They are looking for something. 5. Approach the girls who make eye contact. 6. Never leave a set until a few minutes after I’ve TimeBridged. 7. Set the sexual frames early. 8. Ask her “What ’s on the agenda for later?” This one needs some explaining. A lot of PUAs think this is about Logistics. It isn ’t. In fact, Logistics aren ’t nearly as important as everyone believes. Shocking? Not really. Imagine this… you have plans to go bowling tonight. It ’s Tuesday, you almost always go bowling on Tuesdays. One of your buddies calls you up and says, Buddy: “What ’s going on man? ” You: “Not much, just going to go bowling later, have a few beers, see if I can top my Galaga score.” Buddy: “Sounds cool. Well, would you like to get together and sew a little bit … maybe share our feelings and shit?” You: “Umm… Well… I always bowl on Tuesdays… kinda my normal thing and uh …”
But, what if Buddy called you up and said, “Dude… These concert tickets just fell into my lap and blah, blah, blah …” Do you think that ’d change things a bit? Logistics matter LESS and LESS the more interested and turned on she is… I used to let logistics derail me. Now, I hardly even pay attention. Can they fuck you up? Sure. They used to fuck me up all the time. Then, I discovered “Drunk-n-Lonely Texting.” Focus on getting her to really, really see you as a liberator of her sexual frustrations and SHE will handle the logistics for you. The purpose of the question is to establish in her mind that you have probably sexual intent AND you are seeking a way to create an opportunity. 9. After you have 3 or 4 TimeBridge’s set up, focus on the one who seems like your best shot. This is always a little bit of a crap shoot BUT your Intuition will grow with time. 10. Tell her she is sexy and that her mannerisms are driving you crazy. Use a Bounce statement about 30 minute prior to close. 11. If she doesn’t take the Bounce invitation, walk her to the car. Get in and say you are going to talk to her a bit. Make out with her. 12. Tell her you are not sure you can drive home and ask her if she would mind, “It ’s just right down the street. ” (I’ve used this a billion times for venues that are 30-45 minutes away! Haa!) 12b. As she is driving mass text the other girls and say, “Hey sexy” – just in case this one does leave you after dropping you off. This will increase the possibility of another honey coming over thus DECREASING the chance of you getting shot in the face. 13. As she’s driving begin using one or two word commands interspersed with normal conversation. “Turn here.” “Go left.” when you get to your place say, “ Park here.” I like to use stop signs and stop lights as a chance to make out. 14. “Come in and get some water before you head back.” 15. Get her some water, tell her where the bathroom is… while she’s in the bathroom put on a DVD. I like “Wedding Crashers” or, “South Park: The Return of the Fellowship of the King to the Two Towers” because it is sexual in nature and hilariously funny. 16. Have her sit down on your coach. Make small talk 3-5 minutes. Kiss her again. 17. Begin escalating heavy. 18. Push her away and tell her she is naughty for doing this to you. 19. Escalate more. Spank her. Tell her she is bad. Ask her what she is doing to you. 20. Make sweet love. Send her on her way, “And… try not to think about me constantly” as you pull her hair and kiss her deeply again. Go into your closet and get your Flame Thrower. Wait for the knock on the door. When the Goons rush in, fling your used condom at them and then use the Flame Thrower to set them all on fire. This should make your point in a fairly dramatic way.
Captain Jack P.S. I thought about using the Grenade Launcher instead of the Flame Thrower. But, I felt like Grenade Launcher was a little too obvious. I feel Flame Thrower gives that extra little bit of twist. Gun to the Head: Charred Remains Checklist After charring your doubters with the flamethrower you’ll probably want to get some fresh air and reflect. What if you are not as good as Sinn or El Topo (yet!) and you DID NOT get a Same Night Lay? Well, now it ’s time for some Brutal Honesty. Use this checklist to hold your ass to the fire. This is the time to be honest and real about your effort level and whether or not you have your shit together. “When performance is measured, performance improves. When performance is measured and reported back, the rate of improvement accelerates.” – Thomas Monson Use a checklist to help you measure your work rate. 1. How many sets did I open? (If it ’s less than 3 per hour then you MUST increase your work rate) 2. Of those sets, how many did I open with the INTENTION of taking it as far as I could? 3. When something didn’t go as I planned, did I take it the wrong way? 4. Did I latch on to conversational threads that didn’t serve me? 5. Did I leave before attempting a TimeBridge? 6. Of the TimeBridge’s I attempted, how many times did I meekly put it out there instead of really making an effort to pull her out of the current time/place and into the future with me? 7. Did I make it clear to her friends who I was gaming? 8. Did I tell them I liked her and thought she was cool? 9. Did I ever get out of my head and attempt a REAL connection with the woman in front of me? 10. Did I set sexual frames and show that I valued her sexuality as well as my own? 11. Did I show her I was interested in making something happen very soon? 12. Did I tell her I liked her (lips/hair/certain mannerism/smell)? Did I tell her I thought she was sexy? 13. How many times did I attempt the Bounce? 14. Did I attempt a kiss close? 15. Did she give me any openings (conversationally) that I missed? Like a compliment? Or, a hint that she was open for something happening? 16. Did I miss her qualifying herself before I even tried to qualify her? 17. Did I “drunk-n-lonely” text about 10 minutes after close? What is measured improves. Captain Jack
Opening and Social Proof versus “Player in the Game”
Since I’m going out to meet and seduce women more and actually working on SPs I’ve done a bit more experimentation and then, OUTSIDE THE FIELD, analysis of what I’ve noticed versus what I expected versus what I want. I noticed the other day I was only marginally interesting to the hot bartenders and wait staff until I started talking to cougar and the milf.
Normally, I explain this as Social Proof. It’s one of the communities favorite theories. And, it seems to explain a lot. Cialdini popularized it and the definition is people will be more likely to do what they see other people doing. What about in the case of a normal bootcamp when guys are opening, but getting
blown out or failing to get attraction… they still get more AIs after opening than when they don’t open. And, in this case you’d expect them to get blown out so much the first few times that they’d be done for the night due to all the negative social proof. But, that doesn’t happen. So, what’s going on? Let’s examine this a bit further… Have you ever looked at a woman and thought it looked “hard” to approach her and you weren’t sure if you wanted to risk it. Then, some chode went and opened her and she was extremely nice to him and everything went fine. Then, you said to yourself, “Holy shit… I could do better than that chode” and you walked over a nd opened?
Have you ever seen a hot girl with a chode and thought, “Damn… how the fuck did he get her? I’m 10x cooler than that guy” and if you had a smooth chance you’d have attempted to flirt? Both of the above have happened to me and others many, many t imes. Here’s another related question: Did you know that guys have been blown out after approaching women, gone back in later, and had it bust wide open?
What I’m going to say is that Social Proof doesn’t explain the warm responses you get from approaching women when you’ve been seen in set OR you merge sets with pawns… I think it has to do with how she categorizes YOU in relation to the Game being played. She’s not keying off of the ACTUAL responses of the other women (that’d be pre-selection) as much as she’s keying off the realization that you are playing the Game. See, women know that this is a Game. The Game is find an attractive mate to have sex with! In any game there are Players and Spectators. If you are not talking to women, approaching women or already with women then you are a Spectator until proven otherwise. (She may HOPE that you are a Player and give you AIs to find out.) Why do AIs increase when women see you open? Simply because they realize you are a Player and so are they so it’s an invita tion from one Player to another Player to engage in the Game.
What about opening sets with a woman with you? First, it demonstrates you’re a Player in two ways, the opening and you are already with a girl. Second, much like you look at a dude and think you could do better than that guy, the girl looks at the
girl and does the same… except girls seem to be much more aggressive in this area than the average community male. An Hb3 WILL try to unseat a 9 or 10… whereas most dudes who feel outclassed will shy away and ask if she has any friends or something. You are most likely missing a lot of AIs. Assume any eye contact is an AI for the
time being and you’ll get a lot of real world experience around the subject. Also, many afc/PUAs have trouble with making or keeping eye contact so practice holding
eye contact if you haven’t done those types of drills. Especially if this is a weak point because it just won’t be tolerated in set. If this is a weak point for you literally stare girls down until you don’t feel any pressure to look away. A few days/nights of this is usually all you need.
You can make the assumption that if you see one AI you’ve probably missed 2 or 3. Now, this snowballs. You open a set, girls notice, they start changing their body language and giving you AIs. They look in your direction more. Other girls pick up
on this… you open more, new girls pick up on it plus the old girls. Snowball. (If you’ve ever been in a club with a celebrity or sports star you’ll notice this on steroids magnified by one hundred. You can hardly keep a woman’s attention when there’s a big celeb in proximity.) As you move around girls will shift body language towards you. You’ll get Proximity AIs from all girl sets, etc. (In my eCoaching bootcamp I discuss Parading girls… it’s the fastest way to warm up the entire venue. I have a saying that if you can Parade 3 times in a night you will most likely get laid. It is magical.) Can’t this be described by Pre-Selection? Again, only partially. See, pre-selection means the women were visibly and intensely attracted to you and the other women noticed it. We have PLENTY of examples of guys who have a lot of hot female FRIENDS who couldn’t get la id if their life depended on it. What is going on here? Well, though they are surrounded by hot girls they never show new girls they meet that they are in the game. They never show her that they know her Goals and move her across the barriers/obstacles to the win. Don’t get me wrong Pre -Selection DOES help. But, what I’m talking about is
something even before and more basic. I’m talking about girls giving AIs and becoming warm just based on her/their analysis that you are playing the same Game they are. Pre-selection comes later… it is “He’s in the same Game AND he’s obviously good at it” (Parading, which I mentioned above, activates Pre -Selection especially when multiple girls are paraded together or close together i n the same night.) EVERYBODY in the game hates wasting time. Females don’t want an opportunistic Spectator to suck up their time so they usually reserve their AIs for proven Players. Girls also intuitively know that if she can get one guy to open her then a few others will get more courage and open. Thus, more Players and more opportunity for her to win.
What about Celebrities?
Let’s analyze this a bit… Why do women like Celebrities? I can think of a bunch of reasons. 1. Money? Money doesn’t hurt BUT, it can’t ONLY be money. Pro PUAs have many, many super rich guys come to us for help. Many super rich end up as sugar daddies
for hotties and those situations aren’t usually exclusive. 2. Looks? Well, women don’t have the same physiological responses to looks as men do. Their acceptable range of looks is MUCH wider and is weak enough that we can totally ignore it. (Provided your grooming and style is good). Plus, many Celebrities are dog ugly. 3. Status? A strong contributor. Society has conditioned us to treat celebs better. Even dudes want to meet other celebrity dudes. 4. An Assumed Player in the Game. This conditioning of status begins the SNOWBALL we talked about earlier. When you get the multiple girls visibly interested, the society conditioning of treating celebs as special plus the idea of bragging rights and money, then you have a lot of factors working together. It is
deduced, assumed, that they are prime Players in the Game… thus, the females play all out. The Case of the Man with Social Proof but Not a Player in the Game. Take a guy out with 3 women. One of them is his wife, the other two are her sexy girlfriends. He has a wedding band on. Does he get massive AIs? No. He might get a
few at first… some women are screwy and like to try and others may not have noticed the ring but after about an hour or two in the venue he is essentially invisible to the other Players.
I noticed this when I was out with FBs/Girlfriends. I’d get a LOT of AIs at first and after a bit I was essentially invisible again. Sure I was with a hot girl (social proof idea) BUT it was pre- empted because the girls realized I wasn’t in the Game. So, I put the idea of Social Proof on the backburner as something that, while valid, only partially described what was happening and opt instead for the fuller idea o f Player in the Game. It better describes what actually occurs in the field. Spectators, Players, Winners, Obstacles and Goals. This also helps to mesh Sexual Framing with some of the more standard MM structured approach. Though, I usually avoid the standard Peacocking, Pawning, Social Proof/DHV routines (ex. the routine where you show you with pics with hot girls, doing cool shit, hanging with cool people), with this idea they start to make sense together. When I open and start Sexual Framing I’m demonstrating I’m a Player in the
Game… that we are both playing the same Game, that I value her Game Goal (finding a guy who can make her feel sexy and sexual) and I’m willling to carry it home (so to speak! haa).
Since I’ve gotten good at opening one or two sets, hooking and staying in for the long haul the other girls notice it… if the set busts or unravels, many girls in the vicinity have noticed the deep sexual attraction between me and the other girl and have me pegged. Opening any girl who witnessed that makes my set go that much easier.
She isn’t looking for Value or Social Proof, she’s looking for the man in her near Vicinity who is the best Player in the Game.
If you understand this it will lessen your worry about people seeing a set go bad. It
won’t matter, by opening you’ll show everyone else you’re in the game. Captain Jack P.S. You should also feel less pressure from others watching you open because Spectators don’t count! And, Male Players are too busy playing to notice or care! In fact, if anything they’re probably thinking of allying with you to give both of you better chances to win.
More on “The Game Dynamics” Game Dynamics and “Player in the Game” = Elegance Hmm I think this is boiling down to a bit of semantics and how you exactly define it. If I go to a bar with my hot female friends I get tons more AIs that if I go with my male buddies. Sure, if I don’t do anything about it then the AIs will die down over time (except for new girls entering the venue). But either way simply having hot girls with you gets you more interest than not, therefore scientifically proving that social proof is a contributory factor! It won’t get you laid (you’ll still have to open… duh!) but is sure as dandy helps! – comment by charliereay on “Opening and Social Proof Versus Player in the Game” post “
I am surprised I didn’t get more of these types of comments. When I published the post I expected to get a lot more of these types than the all out positive ones.
Let me start by saying this… I’m not saying Social Proof isn’t “right” or is “wrong.” What I’m saying is that it is INCOMPLETE. I’m pointing out that it leaves A LOT more unexplained than explained. I discussed quite a few things that it left unexplained in the last post. There is a higher level dynamic at work when attracting, approaching and seducing women that better explains what is going on and that is the player in the game concept. One GREAT way to know if you have found a better organizing principle is if you experience a surge in motivation to act or a desire to do things differently. Two or 3 commenters noted they felt more pumped toapproach women. The reason is because when they adopted this idea it caused a spontaneous release of competing and inefficient ideas leaving more energy and attention available for action. And/or it stabilized a lot of floating thoughts thus lessening confusion (and confusion causes fear and apprehension.)
I’ll show you how it better explains common field phenomena and then I’ll show you how it ALSO explains Sexual Framing. Social Proof Covered in previous post. Peacocking Someone who is peacocking but not opening is a tool. Why? Socially we know, and women know, that Peacocking is something you do when you are Playing the Game. A dude who is Peacocked and not opening is socially weird. Likewise, people with low game awareness call scantily clad women in
the club “sluts” not realizing this is what women do to invite the real Players to open. Saying that women open guys who are peacocked because they
realize the men are Players in the Game is a leap… but, it is a very small le ap. It might be better explained by saying that women can use it to show everyone THEY are playing the Game thus, getting her opened more without making it too obvious. Pre-Selection I covered this a bit in the last post. Pre-Selection is a VERY valid and observable phenom. But, again this only applies to Players in the Game.
When they realize you aren’t in the Game their awareness is no longer on you and all invitations and attention shift to find Players. Jealousy Threads Again, you have to be a Player in the Game and have her attracted for a Jealousy Thread to exist. J-Threads are incredibly powerful. They are so powerful BECAUSE the Game has a limited time span (a Game Obstacle) and a limited number of Players (another Game Obstacle). Her desire to win compels her to focus more energy on a proven quantity as does her desire to IMPROVE against competition. (The competition is other females, not the
males.) Add to that the fact that she WAS on her way to Winning and you’ve got a deep sense of loss and self-doubt creeping in. The idea that other females could be BETTER was theoretical, now it is all too real. She will do ALMOST anything to beat the competitor. Disqualifiers
There are two valid players. It looks like they are headed to winning… but, now one of them seems to be questioning whether or not the other is a
Player… the chances of winning drop causing fear and increasing desire to get back in the Game. DHVs
I’m skeptical about the real use of DHVs EXCEPT when you are talking to a girl to whom that shit is important AND her logical mind is engaged. She can use that stuff to talk herself into liking you or giving you more time/chances.
Ok, “Player in the Game” refines those a bit without colliding and give us a better understanding. We KNOW Mystery Method works AND it works very very well for what it is
designed to do… Those items listed above are given as the reason MM works… But, what then explains the massive success of Sexual Framing which isn’t built on any of those? Sexual Framing doesn’t use Jealousy-Threads, Pre-Selection, Demonstrations of Higher Value (DHVs), Merging, Pawning or Social Proof except as a consequence when a set unravels and you have to open a new one. In fact, Sexual Framing VIOLATES many common MM principles.
Can the “Player in the Game” concept describe it? Yes! Wonderfully! A Game is made up of Spectators, Players, Winners, Obstacles and Goals.
I’m not using Obstacles in the MM definition here. Although her friends COULD be Obstacles they aren’t by default. They are only Obstacles when they don’t KNOW that you and her friend have AGREED to play the game together.
Approaching, attracting and seducing women is often called The Game. All Games are Based on Agreement. Game Dynamic 1: You and her must agree you are both Players. Naturally, this is you making a smooth open, hooking the set and her entering communication with
you. If you can’t get agreement on this you don’t have a Game. Game Dynamic 2: You and her must agree you are both playing the same Game TOGETHER. By opening Sexual Frames you are telling her what Game you are playing. As she continues talking with you and playing along she is AGREEING that this is a male-female conversation with a sexual dynamic. If you can’t get agreement
on this you don’t have a Game. Game Dynamic 3: You must show her that you VALUE her Game Goal. By being non-judgmental and telling her you LOVE how sexy she is, etc you are showing her
this. If you can’t get agreement on this you don’t have a Game. Game Dynamic 4: You must demonstrate that you can carry her through the Obstacles… first by handling them in her mind, then in the immediate environment then over time. This can be done explicitly by getting the group to
like you… getting her so into you that she does it and/or using an Inoculation Routine like I mentioned in “FR: College Girls!” Then, by baby -stepping her along ever so gently she’ll know/feel that she is having all the good feelings and none of the bad (like she usually does), she gets even more comfortable and puts more trust in you. If you can’t get agreement on this you don’t have a Game. Also, you can look for her to show you the same! For example, when I ask her
“You’re not the jealous type… are you?” and then tell a story about how I was “hanging out” (code for fucking) a girl and she got jealous and I didn’t approve I’m beginning to define what Game we are playing and putting in question her agreement on Dynamic 2. She has to alleviate my concerns by agreeing with me that jealousy sucks. The Most Evil of All Evils What about LMR? Can this even shed some light on LMR? Yes! LMR is primarily an unclear agreement about whether or not you are both playing
the same Game (unclear Game Dynamic 2). It can also be that you haven’t shown her that you value her Game Goal (unclear on Game Dynamic 3).
If she is playing “Potential GF Game” and you are playing ONS game and she THINKS you are playing “Potential GF Game” but isn’t exactly sure due to mixed communication signals then… BAM! LMR. You’d have to have told her that your game works like this “Primarily Sexual and then possible grow into GF over time” in order to avoid it.
On the flipside, If you WERE playing to get a GF and she was CONVINCED you were… …and she WAS playing that Game too… …and she believed that giving it up wouldn’t destroy that G ame (clear on Game Dynamic 3), then… …she’d have no issue having sex with you the first night. This is why so many of the PUAs trained in “social” forms of Pick -up have such a hard time getting laid.
They broadcast “social, fun guy — potential fun bf” on Game Dynamic 2 and then wonder why it takes forever to lay her… furthermore, they never make it clear that they VALUE sexuality so she has to be double certain it won’t fuck up that Game before having sex. They have methodically built tons of agreement on a DIFFERENT GAME (fun, cool, social bf) and wonder why the Game Goal of a DIFFERENT GAME
isn’t happening. Those Silly PUAs. Captain Jack P.S. Knowing what you know now about The Game Dynamics you should be able to pinpoint on WHICH Dynamic any busted set fa iled on. All “no -gos” are failure on Game Dynamic 1. All sets that unravel come from failures on Game Dynamic 4, etc.
What would you do with said information? Why you’d examine your Game Plan and look for deficiencies in your common routines/stacks/ideas/beliefs in that area, shore it up, set up experiments/solutions and get your ass back in the Field! P.P.S. Disqualifiers work because they threaten agreement on Game Dynamic 1. See that? If there isn’t agreement on all the Game Dynamics, there is NO GAME, t hus no chance of winning. Jealousy Thread threatens Game Dynamic 2. Player States of Existence and Nested Games Hola PUAs! Recall from “Game Dynamics and Player in the Game = Elegance” Game Dynamic 1: You and her must agree you are both Players.
So, I’m going to introduce “Player States of Existence” to you to help you improve Dynamic 1.
Before she sees you or is aware of your presence your state is “Non -Existence.” After she becomes aware of you and/or you open and the set progresses, she updates your State to one of the following: Potential Player of a Game I Want to Play Doubt (could be Doubt about Dynamic 2, 3, 4) Playing a Different Game Someone I Want to Play With All of her communication is geared towards Clarifying the Dynamics and/or forwarding agreement on them. If you are in an Existence of Doubt on Dynamic 3 she may call a certain girl in the club who is dancing sexy a slut to see what you say about it. (Also remember that most of this is unconscious, we are wired to gain certainty about the Game we are playing and our states of existence in it.)
If you call the girl a slut as well then you’ve shed some light for her on Dynamic 3. You need to respond in a way that reaffirms what Game you are playing and that you VALUE that Game Goal. Contrast these two responses:
1) “For real, her boyfriend needs to put her in check.” 2) “I like it when women express their sexuality so freely.” In one simple exchange you’ve created entirely different scenarios. Shit Tests?
What we used to call ‘Shit Tests’ aren’t ‘Shit Tests’ at all. They are attempts to Clarify. Simple as that. You’ve done something or broadcast something or she has flat out ASSUMED something about the Game and wants to get a response from you about it to Clarify. In the writing of Field Reports (or, even better, audio recordings) you can notice
when you’ve been in a Doubt Status in her mind. It is clear as day. The stuff she says or asks you is so obviously trying to Clarify that I now wonder how I missed it for so long. When the Dynamics are Clarified and Agreed on sex is a matter of keeping them clear and getting her to a place where you can escalate physically to sex. Almost all sets that blow up after things have been going well are because you’ve cast Doubt on one or more of the Dynamics. I did it msyelf just yesterday. Super hot 19 year old asian waittress, disqualified her
so much that Dynamic 1 got thrown out and she didn’t feel like she could play. What’s the Strategy now? I have to go back there and Clarify on Dynamic 1 and work back through the rest of them. Nested Games I have the working Hypotheses that women go to bars/clubs to find attractive mates to have sex with. That hypotheses has served me well and it is one that I continue to
work within… For some people, the hardcore clubbies, sex occurs inside of another game. That Game is Faux Celebrity. Think of the super-hot club chick. Her primary Game is Faux Celebrity. Almost anyone who wants to gain Agreement on Dynamic 1 for the Sex Game has to be playing Faux Celebrity Game first. For them, Sex seems to be a
Nested Game inside of it… I think that since Mystery didn’t have any awareness of Nested Games he took this to mean this is THE ONLY way to do it. This is where his Celebrity and Entourage games concepts come from (and hence DHVs.) Since the problem with Nested Games stems from having to Clarify and Agree on the Game Dynamics TWICE (once for each Game) it appears more difficult. People who have Sex as a Nested Game have larger Social Circles and/or serial LTRs or some other side effect. You see a lot of hot girls with Social Circles that have a lot of guys who passed on Dynamic 1 of the Outer Game and then failed on the Nested Game. Caught in the Friend Zone! The Master Strategy is to cast DOUBT on the validity of the Outer Game and then BYPASS it to go straight to Clarifying on the Nested Game. If you can get Agreement on them then she will backwards rationalize why the Outer Game doesn’t matter or apply in this case. She will HOOK MUCH HARDER because she has those intense feelings and it makes her feel like it must be more REAL.
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Do you ever wonder why…
Sets that were going well suddenly unravel? A girl who was all over you on the first meeting is acting like a church girl on the first date? Things seem to work for others but not YOU? A girl suddenly stops responding to calls or texts? You do well at some venues but not others? You do well with certain types of girls but not others?
If meeting women and attracting women is frustrating, you’ve been spinning your wheels and can’t make any (or much) progress DESPITE working at it for awhile then there is a fundamental problem. Working harder won’t do a damn thing for you but continue to frustrate you and waste your time.
I’ve already proven that what nearly every other PU guru says out there is just plain dead wrong. Social Pick-up is dead (or it should be)… It is retarded and is bas ed on bullshit ideas. Social is the wrong thing to be. She is SICK of Social. Those are the nice guy losers
she not only won’t have sex with but who she is actually REPULSED by… If you’ve been reading my stuff for any length of time you at least have SOME idea of where I am coming from. Right now, I am EXCITED because I’ve discovered the “Missing Link ” to finding THE THING that is causing you trouble. And in just a few minutes, you’re gonna discover it, too. Here’s what it’s all about: Nearly everybody thinks attracting women is either a
Social Game, an ‘Inner Game’ or a ‘X’ Game or all those things to different degrees. You open confidently, you do this technique, that technique, get a number, see her again and after some elapsed time you make a move. And, sure… you need to do all those things… No getting around that.
But, in terms of real progress, it is DEADLY to think it’s only those things. The guys who got good intuitively understand this… but not always in the right way . A lot of gurus will yak on and on about how important Inner Game is. How you gotta get your Inner Game on and get your confidence up and be a man and strengthen your
‘masculine core’ and other such things which CANNOT be demonstrated or taught. They have a point… You do need that stuff but it isn’t learned. It’s a Phenomena of this ‘Missing Link’ I’m talking about. And until you understand this ‘Missing Link,’ you will NEVER get where you want to go in terms of attracting women. Ever. (Sorry.) Listen: You’re going to be just as thrilled AND ecstatic as I am once you see what I’m
talking about here. It will change everything about Game (and life) for you… and it will:
Make your skillset more stable… (forget about wild and unexplainable swings. If weird shit happens you’ll know WHY and how to fix it.) Instantly detect where SHE is at in the interaction and precisely what you need to do next to baby-step it towards your Goal. TRULY feel more confident in interactions.
SEE and notice opportunities in the field and in- set that you’ve never noti ced before. And literally FORCE your Game Plan to be more precise, accurate and effective!
And the best part is… It’s REALLY Simple! Have you ever had been watching a mystery movie and you solved the crime halfway through? The other people watching it with you are still completely in the dark and making these wild statements about who did what and using earlier scenes
to tell you why… and it all sounded so ridiculous you couldn’t believe they were so dumb? If so, then you have a feeling of what it is like f or me when I’m crushing old Pick -up
ideas left and right using this new ‘Missing Link.’ It’s a Process that anyone can run. I’ve run it on myself a few times and each time I see things clearer and clearer and results go through the roof. I know this sounds too good to be true – but, this “missing link” process really is just like suddenly discovering you can do something that no one else seems able to do. That’s because it has nothing at all to do with the anything anyone in the community has ever discussed …nothing at all to do with the whatever half-baked
InnerGame ideas that any of the gurus are talking about… no magic crystals, or ‘energy vortexes’ or ‘loving and stroking your masculine side’… and nothing at all to do with anything that any regular guru w ould suggest to try to “fix” your Game. Here’s an email I got from someone who just recently got this ‘missing link’ a few days ago: Dude, I have been in this so called community for years now, while I get lucky here and there.. (way more then before I started).. I always end up losing or messing out on potentially good opportunities, i take that back, great opportunities. I’ve always known that it had to do something with reframing my way of thinking about some part of the interaction, but It didnt really make much sense until I heard the last two pieces you sent. fuck, its like i been stuck in my own little mental cell. I’m definitely going to put this plan of action in play. Ever since I read your modified strawberry fields test some where on the web, I knew you had a unique view about thist, the sexual framing part I have lacked for years now.
You want to know what this is? Of course you do. And I’m going to reveal it to you. Right now.
Come closer. Closer. Listen: The secret is… HOW YOU SEE THINGS!
Or, the better way of saying it is ‘Your Viewpoint.’ Now, don’t think for a second you know what I mean by “Viewpoint.” It’s not your attitude or belief or anything like that… It goes much deeper and it is a mind phenomena that I saw at work in me and others. Forget about all the tactics, strategies, body language and all that shit you ‘know.’ You could know EVERY POSSIBLE pick-up routine and if your Viewpoint is fucked…
so are you. You won’t execute the tactics at the right time or you’ll OVER do it… or, forget… or not see the opportunity. The list goes on. Basically, the mind avoids confusion by grabbing onto a basic ordering idea. It is
‘good’ because it brings you out of confusion and helps you operate/interact with your environment… It is ‘bad’ because it only allows you to ‘see’ things that jive with it… Bad ‘Basic Ordering Idea’ and you’ve got REAL TROUBLE. It clouds, skews and keeps you from seeing what is actually happening. Problem is… once you’ve adopted it, the Basic Ordering Idea DISAPPEARS from immediate conscious view. You aren’t aware of it… you are only able to see the ideas and inputs IT organizes! Those ideas and inputs are anchored and have the appearance of HARD REALITY.
The plain fact is… and this is what separates the great ones from the guys having shitloads of trouble… there’s a very destructive ILLUSION going on. There is stuff happening in the real world… then, there’s the stuff that ‘The Viewpoint’ magnifies and notices and the stuff that it ignores or writes off… ‘The Viewpoint’ is the reason why you don’t make or make very little progress. You can never get better than it allows you to… it creates an artificial upper limit on your results! And, no matter how much work you do… no matter how many sets you open… no matter how many Pick -up Systems you learn… you’ll be kept captive by ‘The Viewpoint.’ What you THINK you see is NOT what is actually happening. What no pick up guru (who cares about actually training and getting his students GOOD!) – has realized is
that… The Viewpoint Completely SCREWS You Every Time You Are In the Field! The ability to discover, then dismantle, and then REPLACE the basic ordering idea the Viewpoint is attached to is what is going to separate you from the pack! The guys who got good either did this on accident or (more likely) never had a very
limiting basic ordering idea to begin with… They don’t know what they’ve done to get past the illusion created by the Viewpoint! Imagine a simple discovery and correction boosting your game. Previous tactics that NEVER worked for you now work BECAUSE you can see when and how to use them and you do it EASILY.
Imagine KNOWING where she is at and what to do next… this is the most shocking thing to see in my opinion. Girls are READY far more quickly than we’ve previously suspected!
The plain fact is… you can be awkward, average looking and even selectively lazy… and STILL get good at Game. It is NATURAL and sex is simple. But ONLY if you’ve conquered the viewpoint created illusion.
Okay, I’m not going to tease you any more. I can’t teach you this process here in a blog post, because it takes a bit of explanation and drilling. You’ve got to HEAR it and then do it for yourself.
It’s an audio that is about an hour long and will take you about another hour or so to do the process on yourself.
But once you do, you’ll start seeing and feeling shit you never have before. You’ll be amazed and wonder how you missed it… You’ll also say ‘No wonder!’ at a lot of the stuff that happens in set when you get to the basic ordering idea. It will take you about an hour to listen but only a few minutes for the realizations to
start setting in… Then, it’s time to do the process on yourself AND see how things change next time you go out! And that’s it. You’ll have corrected the illusion that is the SOURCE of all your misery in Game. Simple. Easy. Fast . The way to get it is to get the “Master Strategies Monthly” program.
Not only will you get this specific audio… you’ll get the ‘Sexual Framing Mastery’ audio, the “Crush Mental Barriers” audio, the audio on “Recorded Voice” and the brand new “Game Dynamics” audio. That’s 5 audios you’ll get now PLUS 9 more, one per month, for the next 9 months! Simply click the link below to order Master Strategies Monthly
Or, here’s a 3 payment option: Master Strategies Monthly 3-Pay Hope to hear of your successes with this new stuff! Captain Jack
Sexualizing Your Game: How To’s Ok, early in my PU career a f ew things happened that required me to focus on SNL’s. One was that my car blew up on my first f-close out of bootcamp. The second was, even when I had access to a car, I could get girls numbers and even timebridge’s but I could FEEL on the day2′s that there was no sexual energy so they
would drag out to day3′s, day4′s. Naturally, I said “Fuck that shit!” And, put on my scientist hat to design in-field experiments to 1) Get same night sex because I didn’t know when I’d have access to a car or 2) Make Day2′s little more than coming to my place for sex
Then, I read “My Secret Garden” and “Way of the Superior Man” and both of them rocked my world. Those are must reads for every PUA.
So, how do you get sexual in the sarge? There’s a direct way (which Sinn has be en using for a few weeks now and I’m sure he’ll post about it) and then there’s an Indirect way which relies on outside framing ideas and presuppositions (from the Milton Model created by Bandler).
Here’s my normal way of doing it: Opener… DHV Spike Storie s… BUT, my DHV spike stories contain references to a past girlfriend who was a dancer.
The presups are that 1) she’s hot 2) she can have any guy but she wants me and 3) she’s a very sexual person At this point, if we’re still talking I do “sleepy eyes” ala ijjjjjji and make my movements slow and deliberate with LOTS of eye contact and shoulder and lower back kino.
At the first opportunity (mini-isolation or full) I run my version of Strawberry Fields. I’m not saying she’s a sexual being. It’s the test! When I give her the results I often whisper them into her ear with my hand on her lowerback. Then, I push her away. If this goes well I start bouncing between my comfort stack and more sexual presupps. Usually by this time you can start saying more direct sexu al talk (“If your
friends weren’t here I’d spank you for being such a bad girl.”) I think of this as an interlacing spiral moving upwards to sex. Comfort, Sex. Comfort, Sex. Comfort, Sex. In lock-step.
I try to get “Rings on Fingers” in after one comfort routine. “Rings on Fingers” does 3 things:
1) It tells her she is sexually aggressive when she sees someone she’s attracted to… 2) It tells her your are NOT judgmental 3) It says that BOTH of you are good at keeping secrets The change in her demeanor is vis ible. If you’ve ever done it you’ll know what I’m
talking about. The best way I can describe it is “She softens and then glows.” Now, if I haven’t gotten the Same Night Lay Logistics info by this time then I make sure to do it now. (look for “Same Night Lay” guidelines to find out those questions) Next, I’ll start laying down my Identity Stack which includes my Cosmo Routine I based off of Bandler’s SRT. I’ve shared this in my eCoaching program. It MIGHT be on the Lounge as well.
Statements like “I’m trying so hard not to kiss you right now” work well at this point. Kiss tests like going cheek-to-cheek to tell her something can often lead to what appears to be a spontaneous kiss, too. One way to know if you’re out of lock -step in terms of sexual escalation and comfort
is if she says things like, “Don’t you want to know anything about me?” or “I hardly know you.” – throttle back and run some more comfort. The rest of the logistical info can be found here. ~ Captain Jack ~
