Kink Compatibility Checklist The more you know about your intimate needs and curiosities, the safer, hotter, hotter, and more exciting your playtime will be! Once your desires are matched up with your partner's interests and fantasies, your play time in the bedroom will never be the same again.
Are you ready to take your relationship and your your sexual ecstasy to the next level? Following is a list of possible BDSM activities presenting a world of kinky possibilities. You You may not know what some of them are and that's okay. Some activities might seem extreme or shocking which is a normal reaction. Think about what you like or what you might be open to try and leave the rest. Remember that you never have to do or try anything that you don't want to do. Some things might be better staying a fantasy or never trying at all —This is all about you and your sexual needs, desires, and curiosities! Have fun going through the list and be open, honest, and true to yourself. You have nothing to lose and a world of pleasure to gain! By exploring, sharing, and negotiating this list with your partner pa rtner,, you can discover what you will, won't, and might do d o together. Instructions: 1. Find a quiet, comfortable, non-rushed place to fill out this checklist your own. It is important to have clarity on your wants, needs, and desires. It's not about what your partner or anyone else wants at this point, it's all about what you want. 2. Take Take your time and answer as honestly as you can. What would you like to try, feel, and have done to you? Consider new ideas and possibilities. Remember that it's okay oka y for your answers to change or be flexible and that you might be interested in some things at certain times and not at others. Decide what each one means m eans for you and answer accordingly. accordingly. 3. This checklist can be completed by the Dominant/Top, submissive/bottom, or switch. Both partners are encouraged to fill it out separately. 4. Next to each ea ch activity listed is: Tried Tried Before?, Interest Level (Giving), (Giving), Interest Level (Receiving), and Shy. 5. If you have ha ve tried the activity listed before, circle Y for Yes. If not, no t, circle N for No. If you are not sure what it is, circle the question mark. 6. Interest Level: Giving. Circle a GR (Green), (Green), YLW YLW (Yellow), (Yellow), or RD (Red) Interest Level for each activity that are you interested, open to, or not interested in giving or doing to your partner. 7. Interest Level: Receiving. Circle a GR (Green), (Green), YLW YLW (Yellow), (Yellow), or RD (Red) Interest Level for each activity that you are interested, open to, or not interested in receiving from your partner.
Kink Compatibility Checklist Interest Level Rating Scale RED = Hard limit, absolutely not. I cannot and will not participate in this activity as this time. YELLOW = Maybe. I might be open to trying this but would need to discuss/consider it further. GREEN = Yes, yes, YES! I am very interested in doing this with my partner. SHY - The last column is “Shy.” Check this box if you feel shy or embarrassed admitting that you like or are interested about a particular activity. This way, your partner will know when to be more sensitive when discussing the possibility of exploring it with you.
Activity
Tried Before?
Interest Level (giving)
Interest Level (receiving)
Age Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Anal Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Analingus
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Anal Sex
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Ball Busting
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Begging
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Belting
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Biting
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Blindfolding
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Body Worship (massage)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Body Worship (oral)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Bondage (light)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Bondage (heavy)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Boot Worship
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Breath Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Brown Showers (scat, feces)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Caning
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Chemical Play (i.e. menthol, Tabasco, etc.)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Choking
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Clothespins
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
CBT (cock and ball torture)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Shy
Kink Compatibility Checklist Cock ring
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Collar
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Cross-dressing
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Cuddling
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Denial
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Dildo Training
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Discipline
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Domestic Servitude
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Double Penetration
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Electrical Play (TENS, ErosTek, wand)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Enemas
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Equine Play (a.k.a. Pony Play)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Examinations (physical)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Exhibitionism
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Face Slapping
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Female Domination
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Fetishes
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Fisting
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Flogging
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Following Orders
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Foot Worship
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Forced Bi/Homosexuality
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Forced Masturbation
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Forced Nudity
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Gags
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Golden Showers (urine, pee, piss play)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Hair Pulling
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Hogtie
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Hood
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Human Ash Tray
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Human Furniture
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Ice Cubes
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Including Others
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Kink Compatibility Checklist Japanese Shibari Rope Bondage
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Kicking
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Kissing
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Kneeling
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Knife Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Latex
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Leather
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Lecturing
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Licking
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Maid Training
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Marks (temporary)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Marks (permanent)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Massage
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Medical Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Military Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Mommy Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Mummification
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Needle Play (play piercing)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Nipple Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Nipple Torture
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Nuru Massage
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Objectification
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Oral Sex (giving)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Oral Sex (receiving)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Orgasm Control
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Orgasm Denial
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
OTK Spanking (over the knee spanking)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Paddling
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Pain Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Play Party
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Piercing (temporary)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Piercing (permanent)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Pinching
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Kink Compatibility Checklist Punching
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Public Outings
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Puppy Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Rape Fantasy (solo)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Rape Fantasy (gang rape)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Reward/Punishment Reinforcement Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Religious Scenes
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Role Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Rope Bondage
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Scratching
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Sensation Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Sensory Deprivation
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Shaving
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Shoe Worship
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Spanking
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Spitting
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Stocking/Nylon/Pantyhose Worship
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Stocks
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Suspension
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Swapping (with another couple)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Swinging
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Switching
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Teasing
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Tease & Denial
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Tickling
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Trampling
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Uniform Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Vampire Gloves
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Voyeurism
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
WAM (wet and messy)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Watching Pornography
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Waxing
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Wax Play
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Kink Compatibility Checklist Whipping
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Wrestling
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Unsafe Sex (without protection)
Y N ?
GR YLW RD
GR YLW RD
Sexy Bonus Questions: 1. Of the above activities, what are your top 3 interests? 2. How much pain do you enjoy? (none, slight, moderate, heavy, not sure) 3. How do you feel about marks? (absolutely not, light, heavy, not sure) 4. What are your soft limits (activities you don't really want to try but are open to considering)? 5. What are your hard limits (activities that you do NOT have any interest in or consent to doing under any circumstances)? 6. Do you have any medical conditions, health issues, or allergies? Do you have any physical limitations (i.e. shoulder surgery, weak knees or shoulders, etc.)? Are you currently taking any prescr iption medications? 7. Do you have any phobias or mental conditions? (i.e. claustrophobia, etc.) Are there any words or triggers that bring up feelings that you don't want to experience? 8. Are there any words, phrases, images, visuals, or items that you find especially exciting? 9. Do you have any preferences for specific clothing or footwear? For you? For your partner? 10. Describe a kinky fantasy of yours in detail.
